Getting rejected is always scary and hurtful, and it's not the good type of hurtful, like hurting your muscles to get them to grow, but the destructive type of hurtful, where you slowly lose all sense of worth and confidence and every rejection hurts more, not less, than the previous one until you hide yourself away in your room to avoid any and all chance to ever get hurt again.
That being said, I think you should just try tinder out if you never did. These women mostly won't reject you face to face, you won't have to talk to most of the women rejecting you. And it's better to know for certain where you stand.
Generally though, I think Grindr is more appropriate for most 2023 graycels tbh.