Discussion I have it worse than everyone around me

[Vilsonicvs]

I don't know if I'm the only one that does this, but do you ever find yourself in a public situation, looking at other people, and you realize that your life is worse than literally everyone else around you?
I often find myself being on the bus looking around and trying to imagine what other's lives are like, today I saw a young man (19-23 years old I'd say), average-looking and probably philippino or smt. we didn't even say anything or look at each other, but I am certain that his life is better than mine, he probably has a group of friends he hangs out with every other week, a girlfriend he cares about and has sex with, a job and a house/apartment. He was probably looking at cat videos to send to his girlfriend, he was probably thinking about how he's gonna get drunk and have fun with his friends this week.
his life is objectively better than mine simply by what he has been given, do you think he needed to work hard or jestermaxx to get friends and a girlfriend? of course not, things just happen to normies without them needing to work too hard, meanwhile I've been trying to learn how to make friends since I was 14 (I'm 19 now), I have literally never hung out or had a friend group, people just don't want to talk to me, I just can't figure out why.
Nobody I see on a daily basis has it as hard as I do, they all have friend groups and partners with which they can have sex, meanwhile I'm coping by stupid internet politics and watching porn to distract myself. every stranger I see on the street has it better than me, even a lot of (not all) people on this site have it better than me and have friends, I don't even have online friends.

Am I the only one who goes around thinking about how literally every other person around them has a better life?

 

[Animecel2D]

yep

literally everyone has it better than me. this is not an assumption either, it is a cold hard fact of life

 

[ToBurble&Pine]

do you ever find yourself in a public situation, looking at other people, and you realize that your life is worse than literally everyone else around you?

always

 

[fatecel]

Status mogged and life mogged constantly

 

[Vilsonicvs]

Status mogged and life mogged constantly

I'm just so tired of not understanding why I can't make friends but they can. as the great late Saint Hamudi said, being an incel is like being stuck in a glass box looking at everyone else as they're having fun without you.

 

[fatecel]

I'm just so tired of not understanding why I can't make friends but they can. as the great late Saint Hamudi said, being an incel is like being stuck in a glass box looking at everyone else as they're having fun without you.

It's very simple; it's that first impressions are everything, but they're mostly determined by physical attributes rather than personality, etc
If people are repulsed by your physical appearance, they're less likely to approach you based on physical attributes alone and form personal biases based on physical attributes.

“ Dion et al. (1972) found that physically attractive people are generally expected to be better; attractive people are assumed to be more sensitive, sexually responsive, interesting, and friendly than those who are unattractive. Another study also found that attractive people are considered positively; they are found to have wider social appeal, interpersonal and occupational competence, or adjustment, purely based on their physical looks, than unattractive people (Langlois et al., 2000).“

Do Looks Matter? | Applied Social Psychology (ASP)

The brutal reality is you were outcasted before it even began, i’m not sure if you’re trying to be friends with normies but don’t even bother with the narrow minded individuals.