Brutal anecdotes boyos. I'll join in commiserating. Definitely a failure in my parent's eyes. They are perfectionists so I have a long history of disappointing them, simply because I've never met their standards for perfection.
My dad mercilessly mocked every single flaw I had to death. Besides criticizing, never did much as a dad. He was there in name only for the most part, never did anything with him.
My mom always favored my brother. Used to make fun of the fact I was not a dumbshit like her all throughout school. Belittled me at every turn and went out of her way to shit on the aspirations I had as a kid. A duplicitous woman, who never showed love or warmth.
Their worldview and values are entirely different than mine and if it were not for some inferior looks-related things that they passed down, I'd swear I was separated from my real parents at birth. No surprise that I really don't deal with them much now tbh.