Brutal I am not attracted to my husband.

[Deleted member 22977]

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[Deleted member 11159]

Nothing surprising. Women will never be as attracted to their hubbycel as the guys they had one night stands with in highschool and college.

 

[Deleted member 24160]

What's the point of these posts? So what if she's not attracted to him, nothing will change from people seeing this and we'll still be alone.

 

[Irredeemable]

"makes me feel tremendously guilty" :^(

Because you are guilty, greedy manipulative whore. Die.

 

[AlexanderTheGreat11]

As soon as she mentioned alpha , I thought it was a larp by a redpiller

 

[Ping And Pong]

Brutal heightpill, even if you think you struck gold and ascended the hypergamy will inevtiably catch up to ruin you. This is why it is of most importance that wives must know their place and even be beaten if they dare misbehave.

"makes me feel tremendously guilty" :^(

Because you are guilty, greedy manipulative whore. Die.

Even here she can't help herself to not attention seek and gain validation from soy reddit cucks.

 

[Deleted member 26242]

Reading shit like this makes me wonder if being an incel is a blessing in disguise? So that we won't have to be tied to cunts like this?

 

[Deleted member 24256]

What's the point of these posts? So what if she's not attracted to him, nothing will change from people seeing this and we'll still be alone.

You’re alive thank God

 

[Deleted member 24160]

You’re alive thank God

You'd have forgotten about me in a week, quit circlejerking.

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

Nothing surprising. Women will never be as attracted to their hubbycel as the guys they had one night stands with in highschool and college.

It's so over

"makes me feel tremendously guilty" :^(

Because you are guilty, greedy manipulative whore. Die.

based

 

[The Abyss]

God damn women, they can have it all & still feel like it's not enough, one day it's this then the next they change their mind, not a thought in their head other than I want that dopamine hit now, fuck the consequences.

Always gotta be in a drama tornado & get bored so fast.

 

[Deleted member 24256]

You'd have forgotten about me in a week, quit circlejerking.

Cap

 

[The Abyss]

Reading shit like this makes me wonder if being an incel is a blessing in disguise? So that we won't have to be tied to cunts like this?

In some respects yes but we're incel due to ugliness, height or shit like autism so it's not good as we're likely treated like shit by others hence why some don't want to work or minimise being outside around others.

If you could be invisible or overall get good reception from ppl minus the women then that is an improvement.

 

[Deleted member 24160]

Cap

What's that mean?

 

[mTOR]

So with my ex, I was just more receptive and attracted to him. He was my type sexually for sure, he was 6'2", 220lbs, and very muscular.

brutal bullpill

 

[Deleted member 24256]

What's that mean?

Lie. No cap is “no lie”

 

[ChronicPaincel]

and they call us entitled............
"

My husband is a great, ok near-perfect human. He honestly has few real faults. He's kind, funny, genuine, strong, successful, smart, dresses quite well, presents himself well, and is actually super cute too.


He is my best friend and the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. But we have a sexual problem or incompatibility."

 

[Pitar62]

You go qween! If he won't let you find a better man, you should totally go for it anyway! He can't deny your basic human needs.

 

[slavcel11]

reads more like a larp honestly. That part about "alpha male" is especially suspicious.

 

[BITG]

“The only thing I could think of was a huge guy having his way with me”

JFL manlets never stood a chance. Life is a roll of the dye in which MANY men lose. We happen to not even get to roll in the first place.

 

[your personality]

reads more like a larp honestly. That part about "alpha male" is especially suspicious.

I (32F) am not attracted to my husband (34M), it's hurting him a lot and it makes me feel tremendously guilty

I'm trying to frame this post as neutral as possible to prevent biasing anyone here.
My husband is a great, ok near-perfect human. He honestly has few real faults. He's kind, funny, genuine, strong, successful, smart, dresses quite well, presents himself well, and is actually super cute too.
He is my best friend and the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. But we have a sexual problem or incompatibility.
There's nothing wrong with him physically, but he just isn't my type sexually. I love big strong, muscular, confident, even arrogant men. My husband while good looking and muscular isn't tall (5'8" and 160lbs) or hugely built. His personality isn't alpha or dominating. I've tried my hardest to figure out what it is I liked or didn't like sexually. But I do think it's that he can't dominate me mentally or sexually. I've told him as such, but it's just not in his nature. He does try and it can work when I'm drunk, but generally, it doesn't.
These problems never presented itself as early in our relationship when I guess, due to my high libido and how much I liked him, we had good sex. Now, most times when we had sex we were a bit drunk too. So in my defense, everything was great.
We've been married 4 years, together for 8 in total. Before him, I didn't have many boyfriends. I was a bit of a tomboy and ugly duckling and hid my sexual side.
I did have one boyfriend who I had great sex with. He used to make so aroused, sometimes he'd just send a text or a pic of dick and it'd make me very aroused. However, I looked back at some of our texts and in our conversations or sexting, there's nothing he was doing differently that my husband doesn't or can't do. In fact, he wasn't even that alpha or dominant. My husband in many ways exhibits more confidence, what is different is that he knew I was sexually into him and he used that to his advantage, my husband know right now I'm not aroused by him and behaves accordingly.
So with my ex, I was just more receptive and attracted to him. He was my type sexually for sure, he was 6'2", 220lbs, and very muscular.
My husband for some reason never aroused me like that. Though I liked him so much more.
Since we've been married we've only been having sex maybe once or twice a week. Sometimes on vacations or after partying a bit, we'd have more and better sex. Maybe once or twice a year there'd be a week where we'd have sex 5 to 10 times.
But ultimately, it's not fulfilling and I blamed him for years, but the truth is, he can't feel the sexual urge or rush to dominate me if I'm not turned on. Sex needs to be about mutual pleasure. He doesn't turn me off, but unless I was aroused already, he can't make me aroused. I believe this messes with him psychologically and lowers his sexual confidence.
What doesn't help is that right now, I feel like I'm in the prime of my sexual life. I'm not humblebragging but this is the best I've ever looked. I'm 5'3" 32DD-25-39 130lbs. I get A LOT of male attention from men who I'm extremely attracted to. I am missing out on sex, and every so often little reminders make me simultaneously angry and sad. Hearing friends boasting about the good sex they're getting, or seeing it on TV, hell even watching porn depresses me. I'm an extremely HL female, like higher than any woman I know personally and I'm not having or enjoying sex with the person I love.
This makes me feel so torn, guilty, and just so damned confused. I do love my husband so much and cheating on him is something I'm not prepared to do. I won't hurt him like that ever.
I have been to therapy for this. It did help to an extent as I realized I was blaming him previously. Since I've stopped blaming him, something else got triggered in me.
My husband used to have a sexy ex-girlfriend who is pretty hot in my opinion. He had told me that they used to do some pretty wild stuff before. Now I keep feeling like he should be with a woman who can feel that way for him. This isn't a cuckquean fetish, this is out of love or maybe guilt. I'm extremely jealous and the idea of him cheating makes me sick.
I know this dilemma might be a bit heavy, but it's hard to deal with. My therapist insists that I need to recognize if these issues are deal-breakers and if so I need to end this marriage.
But i don't know, I want to re-program my brain to find him attractive. Because he is, he's a very good-looking man and I see women checking him out or flirting with him often.
He knows this is MY issue and has been understanding, patient, and again perfect. But I can tell it's eating away at his confidence.
It hurts him a lot he admitted and he wonders what he can do to change it. I don't know or think there's anything he can, he'd be a completely different person at that point.
Today during sex, I know it felt forced and unfun. He begged me to tell him any fetishes, vices, kinks we could try, maybe there's something we can work with. And the only thing I kept thinking about, was having some big huge dude have his way with me. I didn't tell him, though he probably knows.
He's suggested we try swinging, me being a hotwife, but I honestly, I can't. Swinging is out because I'm too jealous. Being a hotwife is super tempting, but even if it was something he enjoyed (I don't understand why so many men do), I just can't do that. It'd be cheating and it would change us forever, not to mention destroy is ego.
But what do I do? honestly, for women in my position, or men, how do you deal with this? He is my everything. Am I being selfish as well?

tldr;
I love my husband, but I'm not sexually attracted to him and I feel that it's unfair to us both. But I don't want to lose him. It's extremely confusing.

 

[GoffSystemQB]

reads more like a larp honestly. That part about "alpha male" is especially suspicious.

Cope, definitely written by a female.

 

[Dregster]

Reading shit like this makes me wonder if being an incel is a blessing in disguise? So that we won't have to be tied to cunts like this?

To be fair. She is looking at a major downgrade. Imagine having sex with a 130lb hole for 3 years and then downgrade to 2/10 landwhale. Thats like a hole getting stretched out by a 9inch cock for a year or 2 and then downgrading to 5 inches. It's Over, ascension is Cope, most roasties are beyond saving, normgroids are better off pump and dumping after making empty promises of longterm commitment.

It never began for her husband