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How do so many incels go to university, get good grades and then get 9 - 5 jobs and work hard and interact with people all day?
I've known incels with literal phds... How??
I barely have the energy to get out of bed in the morning.

How many of you have never graduated college? Highschoolers don't count obviously
 
I don’t know
 
I've done it but it's extremely difficult

getting thru college while being surrounded by sexhavers was extremely brutal, i was ready to rage most days

everything feels 3x harder for us vs even normies

originally i just wanted to get money and buy shit but i work now out of pretty much habit and not having a choice
 
I've done it but it's extremely difficult

getting thru college while being surrounded by sexhavers was extremely brutal, i was ready to rage most days

everything feels 3x harder for us vs even normies

originally i just wanted to get money and buy shit but i work now out of pretty much habit and not having a choice
yeah exactly, idk how someone can work hard if they can't play hard.
Seeing normies going out clubbing and partying just kills any motivation I have to do anything. Imagine grinding math equations while your colleagues are taking bitches home from the club. I can't.
 
Strong willpower or they are coping hard
 
How do so many incels go to university, get good grades and then get 9 - 5 jobs and work hard and interact with people all day?
I've known incels with literal phds... How??
I barely have the energy to get out of bed in the morning.

How many of you have never graduated college? Highschoolers don't count obviously
Strong willpower
its only the genetic advantage i have
 
How do so many incels go to university, get good grades and then get 9 - 5 jobs and work hard and interact with people all day?
I've known incels with literal phds... How??
I barely have the energy to get out of bed in the morning.

How many of you have never graduated college? Highschoolers don't count obviously
They're probably fakecels or really good at coping, maybe their health isn't as bad as mine, maybe they need some money for their copes and have no possibility to neetmaxx
 
They're probably fakecels or really good at coping, maybe their health isn't as bad as mine, maybe they need some money for their copes and have no possibility to neetmaxx
yeah, maybe. Are you NEET? All i'm capable of doing is mindless retail jobs.
 
We call it "l'énergie du désespoir" in French.
The force you get while being hopeless. A bit like sisyphus
 
Money makes life so much more tolerable, without it you only suffer even more. And not everyone has wealthy parents or other family members to back them up.
 
Money makes life so much more tolerable, without it you only suffer even more. And not everyone has wealthy parents or other family members to back them up.
I don't think so. I mean, sure, if you're ACTUALLY rich, not some mediocre 60k/yr 9 - 5 corporate wagie which is what you can expect if you go down the traditional route of grinding a college degree.
I'd much rather have free time and not have to go to bullshit meetings though.
Living with your parents while working some low stress retail job is ideal imo.
 
Genetic predisposition, mostly. I would guess. How people react to traumatic events is heavily dependent on factors like neuroticism, which in turn are highly dependent on your genetics. Blueprint by Robert Plomin has a chapter pretty early on exactly this, IIRC.

Obviously we also vary in all environmental factors. But I would generally bet on genetics being the bigger factor anyhow.
 
Genetic predisposition, mostly. I would guess. How people react to traumatic events is heavily dependent on factors like neuroticism, which in turn are highly dependent on your genetics. Blueprint by Robert Plomin has a chapter pretty early on exactly this, IIRC.

Obviously we also vary in all environmental factors. But I would generally bet on genetics being the bigger factor anyhow.
I guess. Inceldom and general misery/ hopelessness makes me want to LDAR, nothing more. It just doesn't seem worth it to grind it out for (at best) a mediocre life
 
When I was around the age of 21, I just started admitting that money was my motivation for doing most things. I am 33 now, and money is about 75% of the reason I work so hard, the remaining 25% is me being driven by the thought of revenge.
 
When I was around the age of 21, I just started admitting that money was my motivation for doing most things. I am 33 now, and money is about 75% of the reason I work so hard, the remaining 25% is me being driven by the thought of revenge.
how much do you make?
I don't think so. I mean, sure, if you're ACTUALLY rich, not some mediocre 60k/yr 9 - 5 corporate wagie which is what you can expect if you go down the traditional route of grinding a college degree.
I'd much rather have free time and not have to go to bullshit meetings though.
Living with your parents while working some low stress retail job is ideal imo.
 
When I was around the age of 21, I just started admitting that money was my motivation for doing most things. I am 33 now, and money is about 75% of the reason I work so hard, the remaining 25% is me being driven by the thought of revenge.
also what's your job?
 
How do so many incels go to university, get good grades and then get 9 - 5 jobs and work hard and interact with people all day?
I've known incels with literal phds... How??
I barely have the energy to get out of bed in the morning.

How many of you have never graduated college? Highschoolers don't count obviously
That's the trick, things actually find you once everything is fucked up.
 
We call it "l'énergie du désespoir" in French.
The force you get while being hopeless. A bit like sisyphus
Automatic_pilot_mode.exe
 
It always bugged me because when I'm too depressed I can't do anything, and I even failed university the first time. People are simply built different.
For some, work itself is cope. Like how some people cope with alcohol, other feel the need to work out and study. Lucky them...
Some are simply born with more motivation and can force themselves to do things easily, again, it's genetic.
And lastly, some are so talented that they never have to work hard, like some students in my university who had photographic memory and got top grades while putting less effort than me.
 
It always bugged me because when I'm too depressed I can't do anything, and I even failed university the first time. People are simply built different.
For some, work itself is cope. Like how some people cope with alcohol, other feel the need to work out and study. Lucky them...
Some are simply born with more motivation and can force themselves to do things easily, again, it's genetic.
And lastly, some are so talented that they never have to work hard, like some students in my university who had photographic memory and got top grades while putting less effort than me.
Exactly. For me it's not a cope. It's a constant torment. Whenever I try to look at something and learn it I can't stop thinking about how while i'm doing that, people from my university are having sex.
For me "cope" is mindlessly scrolling through 4chan and incel forums and watching youtube. I don't have the motivation to try and achieve anything knowing that at the end of the day i'll still be going back to my lonely bed.
 
How do so many incels go to university, get good grades and then get 9 - 5 jobs and work hard and interact with people all day?
Well first I dont work hard I work and because I dont act as stupid as my coworkers

And the motivation is partly because of genetics, partly of how I was raised and because Im not able to overcome the way I was raised.
Also it can be a cope to give you the illusion of progress in your life, just how hierachies work. Thats there big advantage for society to maintain the structures and make you work your ass for society.
 
For me "cope" is mindlessly scrolling through 4chan and incel forums and watching youtube.
Same here. I used to ask myself the same questions that you asked here because I couldn't explain the existence of industrious incels, depressed straight A students, and so on, because I assumed that everyone was like me. I researched on that a lot and the conclusions is that there are a lot of factors at play that aren't connected to eachother, it's not "either or". We are literally the bottom of the barrel because we were given no predisposition to industriousness, no healthy copes and no talent.

The lack of talent is what angers me the most and is one if the main reasons I don't put effort anymore, because in the past I did try to work my hardest for some time and the results were still shit. At least you can say that you haven't reached your full potential because you were held back by depression. I had reached my full potential and I was still below everyone.
 
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I barely survive. I didnt sleep well since years, i have multiple health issues, im always tired at work and my grades are mediocre
 

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