One of the Greatest Pains you will ever feel is total osctracism to the point of stunned humiliation and sudden violence inflicted on you by peers, egged on despite your good-will, with administrative individuals who were supposed to look out for you instead take the side of the perpetrators, including the failure of your closest support network (e.g. parents, siblings, relatives, best friends) to take your side. You feel primordial terror expressed in various negative emotions too deep for words, and it can be biologically explained well.
In our stone age hunter-gathering tribes from whence we lived thousands of years, social ostracism meant relatively quick death. Assertion/Bullying is a natural form of imposing order and definite hierarchy. Hierarchy is necessary, but woe to its bottom dwellers. In the mammalian kingdom the absolute bottom of hierarchy is extremely likely to cannibalized, abused, scapegoated, be abandoned to die (can't forage enough food to take care of offspring). Stress hormones like cortisol urge these bottom dwellers to cope or subserviently jestermaxx their way back into slightly less degrading positions in the higheracy. This decreases your likelihood of social ostracism / socially instigated nature-death so that you and your offspring survive. That's one reason why the "trauma" of emotional pain is activated in similar regions in the brain as physical pain since they usually signal similar patterns of low probability of survival and genes being passed on.
Due to sex as a resource being highly valued in a post-industrial society, game theory has now shifted these evolutionary pressures onto male individuals with lower sex appeal to compensate or face this terror. It's good to face this terror if you have certain prerequisite traits since I personally believe this added trauma helps in chiseling your willpower into an unstoppable ubermensch. But if you are a naturally pussy with extraordinary constraints, then you have no hope and that's too bad.
In our stone age hunter-gathering tribes from whence we lived thousands of years, social ostracism meant relatively quick death. Assertion/Bullying is a natural form of imposing order and definite hierarchy. Hierarchy is necessary, but woe to its bottom dwellers. In the mammalian kingdom the absolute bottom of hierarchy is extremely likely to cannibalized, abused, scapegoated, be abandoned to die (can't forage enough food to take care of offspring). Stress hormones like cortisol urge these bottom dwellers to cope or subserviently jestermaxx their way back into slightly less degrading positions in the higheracy. This decreases your likelihood of social ostracism / socially instigated nature-death so that you and your offspring survive. That's one reason why the "trauma" of emotional pain is activated in similar regions in the brain as physical pain since they usually signal similar patterns of low probability of survival and genes being passed on.
Due to sex as a resource being highly valued in a post-industrial society, game theory has now shifted these evolutionary pressures onto male individuals with lower sex appeal to compensate or face this terror. It's good to face this terror if you have certain prerequisite traits since I personally believe this added trauma helps in chiseling your willpower into an unstoppable ubermensch. But if you are a naturally pussy with extraordinary constraints, then you have no hope and that's too bad.
