From what I've seen, couples are only happy for a while, and 100% of couples end up hating each other. Is this accurate or am I just coping?

[Deleted member 7448]

I guess it's easier for me to accept my loneliness if what I want doesn't truly exist. What I want but will never have is a relationship where we genuinely get to enjoy each other's company for the rest our lives, to be for each other a person from whom we have no secrets, a person that we come home to and recharge our batteries after a hard day, being together being a warm, happy and carefree sensation.

But I don't think this actually exists for anybody. I think that people feel very happy for each other for a while, usually a few months and at best a 3 or so years. And even before that, the many flaws in the relationship are merely buried under the rug, but of course they still fight a lot. And then inevitably they end up hating each other and either breaking up or staying together but still hating each other.

So, how does reality look compared to my thoughts?

 

[FidelCashflow]

I actually overheard something about this today on the train. Some Jewish girl was talking to her friend about how she moved in with her boyfriend. At one point she said "it's been great so far but it's only been 3 months so who knows what could happen"
So she was acknowledging that the romance with her bf will most likely fade out after a few months

 

[The Incel Decade]

Familarity breeds contempt.

This is where the whole soul mate myth comes from. "One day i'll find someone I can actually stand to be around after the novelty wears off"

 

[wizardcel]

Women have access to Tinder and whatnot. It has become harder for the average guy to keep a relationship alive. Even if you score a girlfriend, she'll have ridiculously high expectations from you. You, on the other hand, are supposed to take her as she comes. Don't even except basic hygiene.

 

[Deleted member 17724]

Depends on what kind of couple. Most married people I know get along just fine. But yeah, foids who date on a short-term basis and have already sucked hundreds of dicks will quickly get bored of people because they're not used to monogamy.

 

[PHp]

It's like it was a new toy for a kid, or a new game for us vidya copers, you get all excited in the beginning but then it becomes a common thing again and you might end up totally forgetting about it. Happens to everything in life tbh, we are always searching for new things

"One day i'll find someone I can actually stand to be around after the novelty wears off"

 

[Glokta]

Every relationship will have its ups and downs. That's just how human interactions work. However, your looks will determine her willingness to commit, her attitude towards you, the amount of work she puts into the relationship, and whether or not she actually stays loyal to you. The problems you described are pretty common, but they mostly affect normalfag men stuck in a beta provider types of relationships where the female feels little to none physical attraction towards her mate. Chad doesn't have to worry about anything like that. He can be himself and she will still work her ass off to make their relationship work because she feels strong physical attraction towards him. She wants to be with him. She doesn't want to be replaced by some other woman in the role of Chad's primary fucktoy and cum receptacle. Resource providers and sexual partners are rarely the same person, and the overall dynamic in the relationship heavily depends on which of those two male archetypes you belong to.

 

[TheGambler2]

It's accurate.There is a "spark" between people when they see someone they want to breed with.Then either one of the partners finds a better option,or they have a kid and the "spark" disappears

 

[K9Otaku]

I guess it's easier for me to accept my loneliness if what I want doesn't truly exist. What I want but will never have is a relationship where we genuinely get to enjoy each other's company for the rest our lives, to be for each other a person from whom we have no secrets, a person that we come home to and recharge our batteries after a hard day, being together being a warm, happy and carefree sensation.

But I don't think this actually exists for anybody. I think that people feel very happy for each other for a while, usually a few months and at best a 3 or so years. And even before that, the many flaws in the relationship are merely buried under the rug, but of course they still fight a lot. And then inevitably they end up hating each other and either breaking up or staying together but still hating each other.

So, how does reality look compared to my thoughts?

Nowadays, that is correct

 

[NoCopeNoHope]

Every relationship will have its ups and downs. That's just how human interactions work. However, your looks will determine her willingness to commit, her attitude towards you, the amount of work she puts into the relationship, and whether or not she actually stays loyal to you. The problems you described are pretty common, but they mostly affect normalfag men stuck in a beta provider types of relationships where the female feels little to none physical attraction towards her mate. Chad doesn't have to worry about anything like that. He can be himself and she will still work her ass off to make their relationship work because she feels strong physical attraction towards him. She wants to be with him. She doesn't want to be replaced by some other woman in the role of Chad's primary fucktoy and cum receptacle. Resource providers and sexual partners are rarely the same person, and the overall dynamic in the relationship heavily depends on which of those two male archetypes you belong to.

I disagree that chad can avoid the pitfalls of the OP's sort. Foids want new and exciting. Chad can't stay that way forever. Chads get cheated on all the time.

I guess it's easier for me to accept my loneliness if what I want doesn't truly exist. What I want but will never have is a relationship where we genuinely get to enjoy each other's company for the rest our lives, to be for each other a person from whom we have no secrets, a person that we come home to and recharge our batteries after a hard day, being together being a warm, happy and carefree sensation.

But I don't think this actually exists for anybody. I think that people feel very happy for each other for a while, usually a few months and at best a 3 or so years. And even before that, the many flaws in the relationship are merely buried under the rug, but of course they still fight a lot. And then inevitably they end up hating each other and either breaking up or staying together but still hating each other.

So, how does reality look compared to my thoughts?

What you want doesn't exist anymore. You can't trust your spouse with letting you unwind and relax. Foids are always shit testing their males. Even redpillers say shit like "game doesn't stop with marriage". Women are never loyal.

 

[The Incel Decade]

Every relationship will have its ups and downs. That's just how human interactions work. However, your looks will determine her willingness to commit, her attitude towards you, the amount of work she puts into the relationship, and whether or not she actually stays loyal to you. The problems you described are pretty common, but they mostly affect normalfag men stuck in a beta provider types of relationships where the female feels little to none physical attraction towards her mate. Chad doesn't have to worry about anything like that. He can be himself and she will still work her ass off to make their relationship work because she feels strong physical attraction towards him. She wants to be with him. She doesn't want to be replaced by some other woman in the role of Chad's primary fucktoy and cum receptacle. Resource providers and sexual partners are rarely the same person, and the overall dynamic in the relationship heavily depends on which of those two male archetypes you belong to.

The problem for normies is there's always someone better looking or richer than you in the end. A foid is only loyal for as long as you're her best option. These days she can spend a few minutes on Tinder and match with someone better.

 

[desperatecel178]

I'm not sure about couples who marry while they're young and virgin. But you're right about couples with high n counts, probably bc they lose their pair bonding ability (which affects women more than men btw).

 

[Deleted member 7448]

Every relationship will have its ups and downs. That's just how human interactions work. However, your looks will determine her willingness to commit, her attitude towards you, the amount of work she puts into the relationship, and whether or not she actually stays loyal to you. The problems you described are pretty common, but they mostly affect normalfag men stuck in a beta provider types of relationships where the female feels little to none physical attraction towards her mate. Chad doesn't have to worry about anything like that. He can be himself and she will still work her ass off to make their relationship work because she feels strong physical attraction towards him. She wants to be with him. She doesn't want to be replaced by some other woman in the role of Chad's primary fucktoy and cum receptacle. Resource providers and sexual partners are rarely the same person, and the overall dynamic in the relationship heavily depends on which of those two male archetypes you belong to.

I agree, you speak the truth. But I think that after a while, at least after the whore has popped out a crotch spawn, the spark disappears even if it's a Chad. She'll be looking at her life and comparing it to any woman she knows or reads about, and if 1 tiny aspect of her life is not ideal, she'll become depressed about that and look for GigaChad.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

I guess it's easier for me to accept my loneliness if what I want doesn't truly exist. What I want but will never have is a relationship where we genuinely get to enjoy each other's company for the rest our lives, to be for each other a person from whom we have no secrets, a person that we come home to and recharge our batteries after a hard day, being together being a warm, happy and carefree sensation.

But I don't think this actually exists for anybody. I think that people feel very happy for each other for a while, usually a few months and at best a 3 or so years. And even before that, the many flaws in the relationship are merely buried under the rug, but of course they still fight a lot. And then inevitably they end up hating each other and either breaking up or staying together but still hating each other.

So, how does reality look compared to my thoughts?

most people won't hold together unless they pull the trigger and have kids, sad but true
they just don't have enough in common otherwise, and aren't willing to really connect with each other either (a big deal!)

if I had a gf we wouldn't need to have everything in common, including music and the exact same TV series and shit like that
I would expect that we would be able to sort of just sit and "play", in the sense that we would enjoy each other's company without there being some huge activity or thing that we share exactly and where our tastes line up just right, we can just have fun and I would make an effort so we can have that together time without any devices turned on

it doesn't work out that way for normies though, a friend lost his gf after 5-6 years and it seemed like the problem was a combination of a) not having kids after that many years b) not having much in common as far as media tastes (why the fuck is this so important?) c) not being willing to really connect, from either one side or both sides

 

[Deleted member 7448]

most people won't hold together unless they pull the trigger and have kids, sad but true
they just don't have enough in common otherwise, and aren't willing to really connect with each other either (a big deal!)

if I had a gf we wouldn't need to have everything in common, including music and the exact same TV series and shit like that
I would expect that we would be able to sort of just sit and "play", in the sense that we would enjoy each other's company without there being some huge activity or thing that we share exactly and where our tastes line up just right, we can just have fun and I would make an effort so we can have that together time without any devices turned on

it doesn't work out that way for normies though, a friend lost his gf after 5-6 years and it seemed like the problem was a combination of a) not having kids after that many years b) not having much in common as far as media tastes (why the fuck is this so important?) c) not being willing to really connect, from either one side or both sides

Media tastes? I consume a lot of media, but I wouldn't care if a woman watched only garbage or didn't watch anything at all. Are normies really so concerned with trivial things?

Actually, I think I get it. The woman probably wasn't all that attracted to the guy physically (and they rarely are if it's not a Chad), so the relationship was probably hollow and nearly dead anyway, since she was daydreaming about a life with Chad while all she had was an average nice guy.

 

[LastGerman]

I actually overheard something about this today on the train.

Brutal driver licence pill.

Some Jewish girl was talking to her friend about how she moved in with her boyfriend. At one point she said "it's been great so far but it's only been 3 months so who knows what could happen"
So she was acknowledging that the romance with her bf will most likely fade out after a few months

And she is also jewish...

 

[Deleted member 18435]

This is the inevitable fate of all modern couples no matter how "loyal" and lovey dovey they want to act. It's only a matter of time based on the couple.

 

[ShyManlet]

Depends on what kind of couple. Most married people I know get along just fine. But yeah, foids who date on a short-term basis and have already sucked hundreds of dicks will quickly get bored of people because they're not used to monogamy.

Jfl most married couples i know, is where the women marries as virgins, still you can tell they hate their husbands (including my mother, theyre divorced sometimes ago) My fathers always so enthusiastic about her, and she just ignores him, like shes probably thinking 'tf is this desperate cuck trying so hard for, dont he realize hes just my atm, does he think I actually want to be with him, pathetic cuck'

Maybe youre just seeing your parents marriage with a rose tinted glasses. You just wanted to believe they had good marriage, but in reality thats unlikely tbh, after a decade of living together most couples are probably sick of each other and only staying because divorce stigma / or for the kids.

 

[Deleted member 17724]

Maybe youre just seeing your parents marriage with a rose tinted glasses. You just wanted to believe they had good marriage, but in reality thats unlikely tbh, after a decade of living together most couples are probably sick of each other and only staying because divorce stigma / or for the kids.

Nah, they get along quite well. And most other married relatives of mine, with a few exceptions, seem to do as well. I'm sorry that your mother was a disloyal whore but that doesn't mean every married woman is like that.

 

[Deleted member 21514]

Whores have infinite possibilities, when they get tired of u they find a betabuxx or a chad in 1 minute

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

Media tastes? I consume a lot of media, but I wouldn't care if a woman watched only garbage or didn't watch anything at all. Are normies really so concerned with trivial things?

Actually, I think I get it. The woman probably wasn't all that attracted to the guy physically (and they rarely are if it's not a Chad), so the relationship was probably hollow and nearly dead anyway, since she was daydreaming about a life with Chad while all she had was an average nice guy.

he complained that they didn't do anything much together because
a) she had already spent most of his money, so they didn't go out as much
b) she only played stuff like mindless clicking puzzles, not real games or coop games
c) she was a typical femoid so unless something expensive was being consumed/experienced or they were enjoying or discussing something that both of them had in common, she felt bored and unhappy

tbh his only problem was heavy balding, that's probably why we ever became friends because other than that he was chad material and we would have never gotten along if he was a full chad
the fact that she dropped a near chad like trash after spending all his money should be enormously concerning to anyone still hoping to build a normal family life

 

[Deleted member 7448]

he friend kept complaining that they didn't do anything much together because
a) she had already spent most of his money, so they didn't go out as much
b) she only played stuff like mindless clicking puzzles, not real games or coop games
c) she was a typical femoid so unless something expensive was being consumed/experienced or they were enjoying or discussing something that both of them had in common, she felt bored and unhappy

tbh his only problem was heavy balding, that's probably why we ever became friends because other than that he was chad material and we would have never gotten along if he was a full chad
the fact that she dropped a near chad like trash after spending all his money should be enormously concerning to anyone still hoping to build a normal family life

All women seem to be like that unfortunately.

It's very weird when you think about it. It's like men and women aren't both people, it's like men are these creatures that are expected to give their best constantly, do everything and donate all his time and money to a woman so that maybe she doesn't get bored and leave him. How is this accepted?

Life is weird and scary.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

All women seem to be like that unfortunately.

It's very weird when you think about it. It's like men and women aren't both people, it's like men are these creatures that are expected to give their best constantly, do everything and donate all his time and money to a woman so that maybe she doesn't get bored and leave him. How is this accepted?

Life is weird and scary.

it's just that women have these ridiculous standards and unless you try to meet them, you don't even get your foot in the door, you're not even on her radar, because appearances are everything these days.

also another brutal blackpill related to that shitty story

is the fact that HE HAD MONEY FOR HER TO SPEND IN THE FIRST PLACE
this despite being a typical young near-chad and working easy jobs, he had a bunch of money because he saved up everything that he got from parents, relatives, whatever for years, so when he moved to the big city he had a good bunch of money in his pocket.

when I had to move out for work all I had was my hand up my ass and a bunch of teeth with cavities in them that I'd have to pay myself to fix. even if I was in the position to chat with some bitch if I was in his situation she would spend all my excess money in like a few weeks not several years, it would be over before it even started because I didn't have shit and still don't have shit

 

[Deleted member 7448]

it's just that women have these ridiculous standards and unless you try to meet them, you don't even get your foot in the door, you're not even on her radar, because appearances are everything these days.

also another brutal blackpill related to that shitty story

is the fact that HE HAD MONEY FOR HER TO SPEND IN THE FIRST PLACE
this despite being a typical young near-chad and working easy jobs, he had a bunch of money because he saved up everything that he got from parents, relatives, whatever for years, so when he moved to the big city he had a good bunch of money in his pocket.

when I had to move out for work all I had was my hand up my ass and a bunch of teeth with cavities in them that I'd have to pay myself to fix. even if I was in the position to chat with some bitch if I was in his situation she would spend all my excess money in like a few weeks not several years, it would be over before it even started because I didn't have shit and still don't have shit

You know, I could accept this situation if it applied to a small percentage of women that are supermodel tier. But ALL women are like that, 99% at the very least. It's insane to be honest, this world we're living in is truly a clown world.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

You know, I could accept this situation if it applied to a small percentage of women that are supermodel tier. But ALL women are like that, 99% at the very least. It's insane to be honest, this world we're living in is truly a clown world.

it seems like pretty much every element of the world will go haywire if it's allowed

predatory corporations, corrupt leaders, crazy and impossible to please women, paranoid and tyrannical government agencies, whatever can go nuts will go nuts

 

[guaucel]

Women are kids. Just because of (((political correctness))), this whole socioeconomic system and most importantly, their holes, they think deserve everything. Not only they are very lucky, they don't aknowledge what others have to live. This alone finish the "caring and empathetic gender".

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

Women are kids. Just because of (((political correctness))), this whole socioeconomic system and most importantly, their holes, they think deserve everything. Not only they are very lucky, they don't aknowledge what others have to live. This alone finish the "caring and empathetic gender".

This whole generation is already destroyed. Even if some couples "succeed" because the men choke back their tears and accumulate enough wealth to marry at 35-40, they will only have one likely autistic child at best, and will likely end with a divorce.

 

[Of Manlets and Men]

Not 100%, but since about half of marriages end in divorce, and probably about half of those that last are miserable, I'd say that around 75% of couples will end up hating each other.

 

[ShyManlet]

Nah, they get along quite well. And most other married relatives of mine, with a few exceptions, seem to do as well. I'm sorry that your mother was a disloyal whore but that doesn't mean every married woman is like that.

Dont talk shit about my mother inkwell

All women seem to be like that unfortunately.

It's very weird when you think about it. It's like men and women aren't both people, it's like men are these creatures that are expected to give their best constantly, do everything and donate all his time and money to a woman so that maybe she doesn't get bored and leave him. How is this accepted?

Life is weird and scary.

Bcs theres always cucks willing to entertain her so theres no purpose for her to stay with your ass..
And after women hit 35 they start to become invisible irl, they can only get attention on social media / dating apps, and only from thirsty cucks.
So at least theres that..

 

[Deleted member 4159]

Biologically speaking, oxytocin is released long enough for a male to stick around and provide for a child in it's infancy. After a few years, the child can theoretically survive on it's own, and the male is no longer needed. The oxytocin wears off, and the male continues to further spread his seed.