[Friendsmax] [Socialcirclemax] Any Autists/Aspergers/ASD who had/has real friends or is/was trying to get some or a normie who can give some insight?

[Gyros_Pretcel]

I need someone to talk about this topic. If necessary in private if you're to high inhib.

Were you ever able to make friends actively or were they all people you slowly get to know through confederacy sharing a common destiny?
Do you know how to actively make friends?
Any common pitfalls to avoid or how to behave specifically?

I mostly get either openly rejected or ghosted after the first or second meeting. I can only speculate what's the problem tbh.

 

[AsiaCel]

Autist here, no friends really. Neither I have shared interest with most people in real life.

 

[MentalcelSocialcel]

High functioning here,

 

[Insomniac]

Sperg here. Haven’t had any friends since leaving high school.

 

[MentalcelSocialcel]

Updated op
@AsiaCel
@MentalcelSocialcel
@Insomniac

All my friends I have known for over 7 years and slowly got to know from school, can't actively make friends. Sometimes people approach me but I bore them to death or give 1 word answers.

Pitfalls to avoid: idk i try to ask questions and not seem dull when i first meet people cuz first impression is important but I still suck and fail

 

[Gyros_Pretcel]

Pitfalls to avoid: idk i try to ask questions and not seem dull when i first meet people cuz first impression is important but I still suck and fail

Exactly.

@AsiaCel what about your past?

 

[Insomniac]

Were you ever able to make friends actively or were they all people you slowly get to know through confederacy sharing a common destiny?
Do you know how to actively make friends?
Any common pitfalls to avoid or how to behave specifically?

I shared a lot in common with my friends. We had similar interests and hated the normies at school or “simps” as we called them. I don’t really know how to make friends. It just sorta happened for me. You meet someone and you’ll just naturally “click” so to say.

 

[MentalcelSocialcel]

I am quite comftable in 1 on 1 conversations but im always im group or class situations, 1 on 1 is easy if I am walking with them to somewhere or something so I dont have to give eye contact lol

 

[Insomniac]

I am quite comftable in 1 on 1 conversations but im always im group or class situations, 1 on 1 is easy if I am walking with them to somewhere or something so I dont have to give eye contact lol

Yeah I’m the same. I’m not too bad in 1 on 1 conversations but put me in a group and I become very awkward.

Too much to focus on. Overwhelms my mind I guess.

 

[BummerDrummerOG]

I HAVE NO SOCIAL CIRCLE FUCK DUDE

My last friend was in Middle school and he left because of how bullied I was and some of it would affect him

 

[MentalcelSocialcel]

My last friend was in Middle school

It is over.

 

[clip11]

Don't have autism but ADD which is on the autism spectrum. They say that oxytocin has helped improve the social skills of kids with autism. So you might want to try it out. You can even order it through Amazon

 

[ICanOnlyFapToBDSM]

no

 

[MarriedAndLookin4Fun]

Sperg here, only had friends in elementary school because autism hadn't hit me that hard yet.

I spent around 6 years of high school as a friendless loveless outcast

According to some studies posted here, 17% of high functioning autists are in a relationship and only the 1.7% are non-virgins. Truly never began for autists

 

[Atavistic Autist]

My friends have always been fellow subhumans, whether aneurotypical or fat/ugly or physically disabled. We were able to "click" by virtue of our common subhumanity.

I've found that making friends with normalfags is only possible if you have status, and it's entirely conditional upon that. It's not true friendship anymore than a gold digger is a true partner, for example.

 

[blond_elf_bard]

I did but they never felt genuine, sort of how Atavistic Autist said, it's not true.

 

[FrustratedWhiteMale]

If I had friends, wouldn't be here.
I've been accused of so called Autism.

 

[Actually Autistic]

I have no friends whome I can deeply connect with. Friendships take time to build, hangout buddies can be acquired with no effort.

At work just be like “yo. You smoke weed too? Let’s get cross faded sometime”

If you’re specifically looking to go out to clubs, go to RSD free tour in your city

 

[universallyabhorred]

Sperg here. Haven’t had any friends since leaving high school.

I did but they never felt genuine, sort of how Atavistic Autist said, it's not true.

 

[Akira]

I find it easiest to make friends at places you frequent. For example, school or work. Join a group for people with similar interests and go to all the meet ups. It is very very hard to make friends as an adult. I think you just need to keep the conversation flowing, laugh often, and have plenty of alcohol.

 

[GameDevCel]

if you want a social circle, avoid focusing on anti social people, you will need to befriend social buttleflyes, i did that once in uni, because of the guy i get to met a couple of foids (count get anything with them trought).

tl dr: find a dude that try to be friends with everyone, and ask him to present you his friends and add them on social media, fatest way to make friends