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So I need to get this off my chest, I have a very good friend who happens to be a girl. We have been friends for years. initially I wasn't attracted to her, she isn't that conventional attractive. If I would to give her a score it would be a 5 out of 10 when she is done up with makeup on. She has two kids (older) and has been divorced since before we met.
We have done tons of stuff together, we hangout, drink, go fishing, watch movies and so on. For some reason I developed feelings for her about 1 and a half years ago, really strong feelings and became highly attracted to her. I went for months trying to convince myself that it was just our strong bond of friendship but soon, I couldn't stand it any longer and I told her how I felt. I figured we have been talking to each other almost every day for years and we know each other so well (I thought) she will understand and if she is not interested then she will say "No" to me and we will continue to be friends. She did seem to give indications to me that she was interested too, things like "I think it would be awesome if we got married" or "Wouldn't it be great if we moved in together"....stuff like that. I thought she might have been signalling that she was interested as well. Well if you haven't already guessed, her answer was "No". I asked her what was the reason she had for not wanting to be in a relationship with me and she refused to answer directly. The only answer I received was "It just won't work between us". I said that there has to be some reason, is it physical i asked her, because as far as personality was concerned we got along so well. After we had this conversation she turned ice cold, we don't talk like we used to anymore, she hardly calls anymore (she used to call multiple times a day and we would talk for at least an hour each time) and when I do call her she hardly ever answers the phone. She alone knows how hard things have been for me as far as trying to find a partner and so on. How can you go from being so close with someone, investing so much time with them, form a close bond with them (as friends) and then just throw it away like it never happened? How can someone do that? When I brought up the fact that things have changed between us she completely denies it. I know many on here will say to ghost her and I agree with you....its just hard to throw away a close friendship that has been going on for years. With that said, it makes me wonder if we were really friends at all. She never asked anything of me, the only gifts we exchanged were small things for Christmas and Birthdays. This makes no sense, I am frustrated and angry about it....so that's the story in a nutshell.
We have done tons of stuff together, we hangout, drink, go fishing, watch movies and so on. For some reason I developed feelings for her about 1 and a half years ago, really strong feelings and became highly attracted to her. I went for months trying to convince myself that it was just our strong bond of friendship but soon, I couldn't stand it any longer and I told her how I felt. I figured we have been talking to each other almost every day for years and we know each other so well (I thought) she will understand and if she is not interested then she will say "No" to me and we will continue to be friends. She did seem to give indications to me that she was interested too, things like "I think it would be awesome if we got married" or "Wouldn't it be great if we moved in together"....stuff like that. I thought she might have been signalling that she was interested as well. Well if you haven't already guessed, her answer was "No". I asked her what was the reason she had for not wanting to be in a relationship with me and she refused to answer directly. The only answer I received was "It just won't work between us". I said that there has to be some reason, is it physical i asked her, because as far as personality was concerned we got along so well. After we had this conversation she turned ice cold, we don't talk like we used to anymore, she hardly calls anymore (she used to call multiple times a day and we would talk for at least an hour each time) and when I do call her she hardly ever answers the phone. She alone knows how hard things have been for me as far as trying to find a partner and so on. How can you go from being so close with someone, investing so much time with them, form a close bond with them (as friends) and then just throw it away like it never happened? How can someone do that? When I brought up the fact that things have changed between us she completely denies it. I know many on here will say to ghost her and I agree with you....its just hard to throw away a close friendship that has been going on for years. With that said, it makes me wonder if we were really friends at all. She never asked anything of me, the only gifts we exchanged were small things for Christmas and Birthdays. This makes no sense, I am frustrated and angry about it....so that's the story in a nutshell.
