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From crystal cafe
https://crystal.cafe/feels/res/4573.html#q4629
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Meanwhile they always tell lonely males that getting a gf wont mentally fix them.
https://crystal.cafe/feels/res/4573.html#q4629
ive had social anxiety since i was very very young. at age 4-5 while playing with all the other little co-op kids my age, if they decided to run to the other end of the community i would go home crying, feeling like i wasn't invited to go to the other end with them. my mom thinks it developed when she gave birth to me. it was a C-section but the doctor was super shitty and blotched it somehow. my mom had to spend awhile away from me which isnt great because i wasnt able to bond with her and as a newborn thats super important i think. thats at least the theory anyhow.
its hard for me to remember how bad my anxiety was because ive blocked out so many stages in my life because they were so cringey. i do remember having the exact same haircut throughout all of middle school and all of highschool though. my middle school made us wear uniforms which helped me a lot i think. i didnt have to worry about other people judging me based on what i wore.
getting a boyfriend has honestly helped sososo much. i got super lucky with him, hes honestly such an amazing person. ive heard people say things like "getting a S/O will only make you temporarily happy if you have depression. the happiness wont last." however i think the opposite is true if you have social anxiety and meet the right person. him calling me beautiful everyday has really changed my perspective on my looks. like im actually able to go out in public without doing my hair or makeup anymore!
that being said though, i have no other friends besides him and its extremely lonely. when we fight i have literally no one to talk to about it. the only friend interactions i have are when we hangout with his friends maybe once every 2 months and play board games. hes a very introverted person with pretty bad depression so he rarely wants to hang out with friends. and since im an introverted extrovert with no friends, there are times where it feels very lonely. most of the time im content just being with him though! if only it were easier to make friends!
in social situations i try to go over the upcoming conversations in my head and come up with a bunch of different scenarios and how to handle them if they come up! usually i forget it all once the conversation happens but it eliminates the nervousness i feel before the interaction!
And she got a reply
You're lucky. And it's sweet that you only needed validation from the man you love and not the rest of the public. Having a strong relationship and taking care of each other is so important, people saying they do not help for depression must not love very deeply.
Meanwhile they always tell lonely males that getting a gf wont mentally fix them.