I think I would want everything. Normal sex should probably be the default because I think it shows the intimacy best. But from time to time, I would want to be lazy and then offer to be (gently) dominated, so that she could just use my body - within reasonable bounds - however she wants. Similarly, I would sometimes want to gently dominate her, i.e. being allowed to play with her body. Sometimes I would also want to be "dominated" in a specific way, so that I tell her to e.g. mix pleasure and pain. This would be only physical, but not mental domination. Of course, if she would want something similar, I would happily provide that as well.
However, I would not want to "hard" dominate someone or be dominated myself, it should always be very playful and clear that it's not "real". Maybe if she really wants to live out being "raped" I could try it, but I would't push for it.