Does your mom care if you get a gf?

[TheGrayWolf]

Pick 2-3 choices:

- Pick 1 option from Yes or No
- And another (if applicable) from the choices 'C' or 'D'
- If necessary one of the last two

- mine would be happy if I get one (like I'd be happy if she became CEO of a big company, but she knows I'll never get one so she doesn't care)

 

[PersonalityChad]

Mom wants grandkids JFL.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Mom wants grandkids JFL.

My mom told me (over the years)
- you're not the type to marry or have kids (whatever that means)
- I wouldn't pass on your genes. (Yet, my dad passed on 'bad' genes – he was good looking and is tall, but he was carrier of a disorder gene. I got that disorder and now I'm ugly and short. Chance of passing on is 50%. My dad is a biologist but never talked to me about anything related to sex, girls, or relationships with them.)
- neither my dad nor mom care

 

[LesscoBlob]

Mom wants grandkids JFL.

 

[PLA1092]

No.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

I wish I had a mom who cared. She wants me to be 'happy' but in an "accepting way". Like, if I suddenly became a paraplegic, she'd want me to be happy... or if I need to amputate a leg, she'd want me to be happy. But she wants me to forget the idea that I get a gf. She'd be happy for me, surely, but she wouldn't care.

 

[StreetCat]

Well in 21 years she has never mentioned it so I’ll assume she doesn’t care.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

No.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

No. She accepted my state years ago.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Well in 21 years she has never mentioned it so I’ll assume she doesn’t care.

I'm 26 and same. Neither mentioned anything about girls, sex, or relationships. And my dad is a biologist (human body focus) and he never once talked to me about it. He had many opportunities. Go figure.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

She just admitted she doesn't care, because she "thinks rationally"

 

[Fallenleaves]

No.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

My mom doesn't care and wants me to be her child anyway, but also thinks I would get one

Ok. My mom doesn't care (but really cares that I get a job once), and it's extremely obvious she doesn't think I'll ever get a gf

 

[StreetCat]

I'm 26 and same. Neither mentioned anything about girls, sex, or relationships. And my dad is a biologist (human body focus) and he never once talked to me about it. He had many opportunities. Go figure.

I actually spoke to my Dad once about it, he lost his virginity at 14 and spent his 18-21 just fucking random girls from the club until he met my Mom. Casual sex with random people isn’t good for you imo but it’s a wild difference between the two of us lol

 

[ADHD_cel]

No, she knows well that I’m a total failure

 

[TheGrayWolf]

I actually spoke to my Dad once about it, he lost his virginity at 14 and spent his 18-21 just fucking random girls from the club until he met my Mom. Casual sex with random people isn’t good for you imo but it’s a wild difference between the two of us lol

wild difference in what way? You and me, because your dad talked to you and mine didn't because he knew I was a lost cause? Or you and your dad, because he had sex and you didn't?

 

[StreetCat]

wild difference in what way? You and me, because your dad talked to you and mine didn't because he knew I was a lost cause? Or you and your dad, because he had sex and you didn't?

Sorry for confusion, I mean wild difference between me and my Dad, he could well of fucked 100 odd women and lost his virginity at 14 and I’m kissless at 21

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Sorry for confusion, I mean wild difference between me and my Dad, he could well of fucked 100 odd women and lost his virginity at 14 and I’m kissless at 21

Brutal. I’m 26, kissless, hand-holdless, hugless. My mom thinks I’m extremely dumb and straight out lies to me all the time. I have autism too, if I had the money to leave I’d leave in 2 weeks (packing, moving, etc.). I also have social anxiety so living in an apartment would really suck. She claims she cares, she only cares I get a good job once, but I wish I could leave right away (have no friends irl) but it’s impossible

 

[Soulflayer]

Mom wants grandkids JFL.

Same but they aren’t worried about me. I have 3 brothers and 1 sister, each of them will most likely have kids.

 

[StreetCat]

Brutal. I’m 26, kissless, hand-holdless, hugless. My mom thinks I’m extremely dumb and straight out lies to me all the time. I have autism too, if I had the money to leave I’d leave in 2 weeks (packing, moving, etc.). I also have social anxiety so living in an apartment would really suck. She claims she cares, she only cares I get a good job once, but I wish I could leave right away (have no friends irl) but it’s impossible

Sorry to hear that pimp, I’d focus on just making money and looking after yourself, my family are nice as people but I see them as retarded intelligence wise so I don’t interact with them that much. It sucks because we’d be able to move out easily if property cost what it used to and there was an actual living wage.

 

[Deleted member 28708]

they dont seem to care tbh

 

[LeFrenchCel]

I think they cared at some point but maybe they gave up

 

[NirvanaFan1988]

Mom wants grandkids JFL.

Ask her if she is going to support them economically.
If not, tell her to fuck off and die.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Sorry to hear that pimp, I’d focus on just making money and looking after yourself, my family are nice as people but I see them as retarded intelligence wise so I don’t interact with them that much. It sucks because we’d be able to move out easily if property cost what it used to and there was an actual living wage.

Thanks bro. Making money now is hard and studying is hard (do it online) but I have autism, adhd and a disability. So my mom, when she said I’m good looking, only compared myself with the people in my country who overall are pretty ugly. She tells me i look better than 80% of men (when in fact im in the bottom 20%), but she says my sister “is a 10/10 out there” but she admits she doesn’t have such a beautiful face (she’s like a 6). She lies and claims strangers keep staring at my sister and tell my mom “wow what a beautiful daughter”. This might have happened once or twice a few years ago. So she’s lying. She also doesn’t care about lying (after all, she tells herself she’s not lying, she’s just filtering, spinning and twisting the facts in her favour). Yeah man, and I have a dog and a cat at home, my mom can’t walk very well so I have to walk the dog.

But she’s a liar and manipulative. Apparently I’m “good looking” (but she obviously takes other criteria for me, remember I said she spins the facts in her favour). She implied many times that I’m not that great looking. She also wants to tell me, despite me apparently being good looking, that I can only get average girlfriend.

Sorry pimp that I’m unloading all this on you I don’t have any irl friends, I’m 26 and was bullied in school bc of how weird I look (strangers also react negatively to my face, point or talk or stare) I also have autism and a disability that affected my looks. I can walk and drive but my life feels like I’m in jail. I’m not free. I can’t have a girlfriend. I never feel joy. Peace man, and sorry again

 

[StreetCat]

Thanks bro. Making money now is hard and studying is hard (do it online) but I have autism, adhd and a disability. So my mom, when she said I’m good looking, only compared myself with the people in my country who overall are pretty ugly. She tells me i look better than 80% of men (when in fact im in the bottom 20%), but she says my sister “is a 10/10 out there” but she admits she doesn’t have such a beautiful face (she’s like a 6). She lies and claims strangers keep staring at my sister and tell my mom “wow what a beautiful daughter”. This might have happened once or twice a few years ago. So she’s lying. She also doesn’t care about lying (after all, she tells herself she’s not lying, she’s just filtering, spinning and twisting the facts in her favour). Yeah man, and I have a dog and a cat at home, my mom can’t walk very well so I have to walk the dog.

But she’s a liar and manipulative. Apparently I’m “good looking” (but she obviously takes other criteria for me, remember I said she spins the facts in her favour). She implied many times that I’m not that great looking. She also wants to tell me, despite me apparently being good looking, that I can only get average girlfriend.

Sorry pimp that I’m unloading all this on you I don’t have any irl friends, I’m 26 and was bullied in school bc of how weird I look (strangers also react negatively to my face, point or talk or stare) I also have autism and a disability that affected my looks. I can walk and drive but my life feels like I’m in jail. I’m not free. I can’t have a girlfriend. I never feel joy. Peace man, and sorry again

That fucking sucks bro sorry to hear that. Your mom is strange I would just focus on yourself and do what you can, hopefully you can eventually move out and not have to listen to that garbage. She's telling you that you are attractive etc while also saying get an average girlfriend, basically telling you what she really thinks without trying to be rude and to not knock your confidence. She's doing the same with your sister.

Don't feel bad about unloading, I'd do the same if I was in that position, I don't know everything about your situation and life so it's hard to give advice which would help, and some things you just can't change. I respect the fact you've made it to 26, I'm 21 and sometimes think what's the point in all this.