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Discussion Do your parents put you down?

Do your parents put you down?

  • Yes

    Votes: 12 66.7%
  • No

    Votes: 1 5.6%
  • One does

    Votes: 5 27.8%

  • Total voters
    18
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I can't remember if I've already started a thread about this but it didn't come up so... hm. I'll make a poll anyways!


Edit -- Also sorry for phrasing this only in the present tense as I know not everyone has both parents who are still alive. That was just an oversight that I made when creating the thread!
 
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Sometimes they do.
 
My parents have told me I am utterly worthless my whole life and that I am a failure as a man for not being able to get a foid
 
My mom told me last time that this was the worst i've looked and it's disturbingly enough true, she told my brother he should go on tinder and look for a girl but not me that it wasn't for me, so I told her she looks like Alan Rickman lmao, old bitch she can be.
 
My dad is kind of a fucking lunatic and is actually sorta the reason why my childhood and teenage were so cucked. Part of it was my subhuman face, but my dad made up for the other part. I need to get away from this house.
 
Hm. It seems like a lot of people here have this issue with their parents putting them down. It can definitely dampen your ability to succeed in life, and sometimes that's even the goal, as many people including parents are narcissistic or have other issues.

@ilieknothing lol imagine if they actually used that word too.
 
Hm. It seems like a lot of people here have this issue with their parents putting them down. It can definitely dampen your ability to succeed in life, and sometimes that's even the goal, as many people including parents are narcissistic or have other issues.

@ilieknothing lol imagine if they actually used that word too.
It would be great to have someone in real life you can use that word with
 
It would be great to have someone in real life you can use that word with

True!

Most of us are quite spread out though. And some of us are probably feds, lol
 
I can't remember if I've already started a thread about this but it didn't come up so... hm. I'll make a poll anyways!


Edit -- Also sorry for phrasing this only in the present tense as I know not everyone has both parents who are still alive. That was just an oversight that I made when creating the thread!
Only my mother
 
My parents have told me I am utterly worthless my whole life and that I am a failure as a man for not being able to get a foid
But aren't you a successful banker though and make good money and drive a nice car?

Other than lack of foids you probably have a good life, no?
 
They always have, consciously and sub consciously. They're not nice fucking people. They have this facade up now though that I'm older and they realize the damage they've done. Too late for that shit.
 
Look into the six motivations that must be satisfied during your devolping years by your parents.

If most of them aren't satisfied you will devwlop certain personality disorders.

I have been diagnosed with multiple personality disorders.

In my case the only thing that I ever truely got from my parents were boundaries, loads of boundaries and I could barely make any mistakes and learn from the experience.

I was extremely cushioned during my childhood and that didn't help me at all.

My father also always put me down. He still does it, despite me doing well nowadays, all things considered.

I have moved out a long time ago, have a steady job, a car, I save money and even look into investment now.

Still, every opportunity he gets he puts me down.
I can't remember him ever saying to me that he was proud of me or that I did something well.

As a father and man, he never taught me any handiwork. He just pretended to want to show me, only to throw a fit when I didn't immediately understand what he was trying to show me.
He'd then scream and shout and insult me and put me down.
This was always his way of teaching me things, so I came to him less and less.

I eventually started learning stuff on my own.

I fix my car myself. I use the internet for help, I watch channels like Scotty Williams.

Stuff around and in the apartment I do myself also.

Sometimes it means nothing to have parents if they for some reason hate you and sabbotage your life.

Might as well leave home early on and take your chances out there.
 
But aren't you a successful banker though and make good money and drive a nice car?

Other than lack of foids you probably have a good life, no?
Yes but I was doing extremely shit in all areas before I got my big break in the job front. That is why they shit on me, all my life they told me I was worthless and that is probably true
 
Yes but I was doing extremely shit in all areas before I got my big break in the job front. That is why they shit on me, all my life they told me I was worthless and that is probably true
What is in the past doesn't matter.

You are successful now. That it what matters.

Be proud of that and try to enjoy your life as best as you can.

You may not get a foid, but you could probably afford surogacy, no?

At least you'd have children that way.
 
What is in the past doesn't matter.

You are successful now. That it what matters.

Be proud of that and try to enjoy your life as best as you can.

You may not get a foid, but you could probably afford surogacy, no?

At least you'd have children that way.
I am pretty sure they don’t allow single males to do surrogacy JFL
 
Being the middle child makes this often the case, I am treated as the scapegoat and often blamed for things I didn't do.
 
Look into the six motivations that must be satisfied during your devolping years by your parents.

If most of them aren't satisfied you will devwlop certain personality disorders.

I have been diagnosed with multiple personality disorders.

In my case the only thing that I ever truely got from my parents were boundaries, loads of boundaries and I could barely make any mistakes and learn from the experience.

I was extremely cushioned during my childhood and that didn't help me at all.

My father also always put me down. He still does it, despite me doing well nowadays, all things considered.

I have moved out a long time ago, have a steady job, a car, I save money and even look into investment now.

Still, every opportunity he gets he puts me down.
I can't remember him ever saying to me that he was proud of me or that I did something well.

As a father and man, he never taught me any handiwork. He just pretended to want to show me, only to throw a fit when I didn't immediately understand what he was trying to show me.
He'd then scream and shout and insult me and put me down.
This was always his way of teaching me things, so I came to him less and less.

I eventually started learning stuff on my own.

I fix my car myself. I use the internet for help, I watch channels like Scotty Williams.

Stuff around and in the apartment I do myself also.

Sometimes it means nothing to have parents if they for some reason hate you and sabbotage your life.

Might as well leave home early on and take your chances out there.

Hm, most of that sounds similar to my situation!

Differences of course but overall similar. I feel like I was taught how to be a child but not really how to be an adult. And yeah my dad often puts me down and has a go at me and has a lack of faith in me. It's strange for sure.

Yes but I was doing extremely shit in all areas before I got my big break in the job front. That is why they shit on me, all my life they told me I was worthless and that is probably true

I mean... if you have money and your health is good then that's two really big wins right there :)

Being the middle child makes this often the case, I am treated as the scapegoat and often blamed for things I didn't do.

Ah wow, yeah I often feel scapegoated. Even actively undermined. I'm the eldest child of two.
 
Yes I'm always the butt of the joke. When I paid cash for my house when I was 21 which is an incredible accomplishment they thought I was going to trash the place and probably lose it. Great support huh
 
I can't remember if I've already started a thread about this but it didn't come up so... hm. I'll make a poll anyways!


Edit -- Also sorry for phrasing this only in the present tense as I know not everyone has both parents who are still alive. That was just an oversight that I made when creating the thread!
they used to especially my dad but not anymore.
 
Yes I'm always the butt of the joke. When I paid cash for my house when I was 21 which is an incredible accomplishment they thought I was going to trash the place and probably lose it. Great support huh

Yeah my dad is like that. He keeps predicting that the next step is where I will inevitably fail and everything will be undone.
 

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