Insecurity is only useful if you are a compensator, otherwise it’s truly useless and makes your life a giant shit.
You can either be confident for a flaw and let it loom over you, or compensate with it.
Overall insecurity is a good thing because emotional wellness is second to competence/ ability in a jungle dog eats dog world.
Serenity, insecurity but also the stable VIGILANCE to keep looking for more flaws.
Even attractive people can be insecure, although it often doesn't come to them, because privilege makes you a dolt in many ways. Hence why whitesa re dying from their own short sighted humanitarian idiocy. But if they weren't sheltered in their white havens they would realize ethnics, a lot of them, don't deserve shit.
Attractive people can be insecure because any flaw, whether from them, or the universe outwardly, can pose a huge issue to them.
I'd actually argue more attractive people are insecure because they love hteir lofty position so much. They usually say hot models are the ones with bigger anxiety than well, fat slobs who LDAR.
It's rational to be insecure because there is no adventure movie frame to life of beginning, and end.
Life is about maintaining resources and you can do that better with a paranoid eye than a devil-may-care one.
And with enough insecurity, sadness, desperation, loneliness you can be more aware/ vigilant than any psychopath.
You can cover yourself in a lot of cool labels through insecure chameleoning.
You just need to find that perfect balance of being an angry compensator with serenity so that you can bash your flaws down.
And if you can't bash them down, then game over you lose. So the backup plan is to live life as unfairly as possible to get as much power as possible because life has decided to be unfair to you.
Insecurity brings compensation best if you feel you are inherently entitled to greatness the universe has rudely missed you out on (being spoiled as a child helps with this) through hatred/ FEELING MISSED OUT ON HIGH EXPECTATIONS (bringing more hatred). And all that which you hate (insecurities, people who point them out) will be your top priority .
This is easy with the biological human narcissism most people have. Sociobiology.
You jsut need the serenity to redirect hating of yourself to hating your flaws, others, etc.
In my opinion intellectualizing is the best defense mechanism from the burn of insecurity, and controlling how much it affects you.
So long as the intellectualization keeps everything you are feeling/ thinking/ doing in the right motion, area, place for you to feel emotionally content with it. But to do that i'd also recommend intellectualizing ina afashion that helps your insecurities/ mindset/ intellectualization serve you for the best. Where your standards/ emotions/ reactance to negative stimuilus are all in teh right place.
Insecurity is like taming a dragon. You can ride it or you can be burned/ attacked by it.
It's important to know how to numb the critical eye of it to not attack yourself, but to be easy on yourself (while still knowing of the flaws) and go at it to at least go about things with a bit of mental clarity (where the psychological static is reduced).
People who exterminate negativity are better than those who dwell in their positivity.
Who wins? A person who finds the best side out of a dirty room? or the one who ends the filth?
Telling a person to be positive is like telling them to enjoy their ruined clothes when the washing machine is staining their clothes.
It's fruitless, they already know how to enjoy things (when quality merits it), and that's obviously not the real problem. It's the washing machine (in there lies the issue) It's not more positivity that we need, it's the absence of the negativity. It's eliminating the negativity because we can't be more positive with our current situation than we already are. Humanity is as positive as they generally allow themselves to be. All that opposes it is the presence of negativity which must be taken out.
To make hte best out of insecurity you must be like a spiled brat where if things dont' go your way, you don't feel sad/ wallowing sorrow, but hateful anger or carefully planned anxiety. You must feel high entitlement to the point where everythign contrasting your ego assaults your cosmic superiority over humanity and then you will crush anything contrasting.
As a person of the lower class I feel my situation has a major impact, I was born into a poor family with teenage parents, then pulled out of seventh grade and wasn't allowed to go back despite asking all the time, so yeah.
why'd this happen?
