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Which of these two experiences is more damaging to the person: being sexually assaulted or being a manlet permavirgin? Well, as someone who's experienced sexual assault that borders on rape (a group of boys my age tackled me to the floor, dry humped me, and the few kids who saw it ridiculed me and tried to blackmail me by threatening they'd spread the word), my take is still that the latter is more soul-crushing.
Kinda bizarre when you see all the online stories about SA of similar severity and how it traumatized the victim for life and at the same time you see people saying that being an unfuckable permavirgin is at worst a mild inconvenience that shouldn't affect your well-being in the slightest. Something doesn't add up. When the word of my public humiliation died down I simply breathed a sigh of relief and was perfectly happy to go back to LDARing in peace. I barely thought about the incident since. But somehow, the state of inceldom, which is supposed to amount to literally nothing according to redditards is affecting me much more deeply. The answer is of course that different people can and will have different emotional response to the same situation.
Getting consensually fucked by your teacher as a teen student? For some it'll be a source of life-long trauma whereas for others it'll be a life-long confidence boost and a dream come true. Mocking someone for being fat? Some will take it in good spirt and join in on it, whereas someone else will develop an eating disorder and die. You can't look at a certain action or situation in isolation and objectively measure its' impact on the human being, that's a wrong way of thinking. Everyone will have a different emotional response to the same situation. That is also why you can't measure how someone else feels about something by simply putting yourself in their shoes, it doesn't give you the entire picture. When women hear about our struggles, they either think it's nothing or sometimes they're even envious because they'd apparently rather be ignored by the opposite sex altogether than pestered with low-tier dating offers. When we hear about them struggling with low-tier dating offers, we are envious of them because we'd much rather have that than radio silence.
Important to add: I don't think there's anything morally wrong with women not finding me attractive. This is one major difference when comparing sexual assault to the state of inceldom. I'm only comparing the emotional impact on the person on the receiving end, not making a moral judgement.
Kinda bizarre when you see all the online stories about SA of similar severity and how it traumatized the victim for life and at the same time you see people saying that being an unfuckable permavirgin is at worst a mild inconvenience that shouldn't affect your well-being in the slightest. Something doesn't add up. When the word of my public humiliation died down I simply breathed a sigh of relief and was perfectly happy to go back to LDARing in peace. I barely thought about the incident since. But somehow, the state of inceldom, which is supposed to amount to literally nothing according to redditards is affecting me much more deeply. The answer is of course that different people can and will have different emotional response to the same situation.
Getting consensually fucked by your teacher as a teen student? For some it'll be a source of life-long trauma whereas for others it'll be a life-long confidence boost and a dream come true. Mocking someone for being fat? Some will take it in good spirt and join in on it, whereas someone else will develop an eating disorder and die. You can't look at a certain action or situation in isolation and objectively measure its' impact on the human being, that's a wrong way of thinking. Everyone will have a different emotional response to the same situation. That is also why you can't measure how someone else feels about something by simply putting yourself in their shoes, it doesn't give you the entire picture. When women hear about our struggles, they either think it's nothing or sometimes they're even envious because they'd apparently rather be ignored by the opposite sex altogether than pestered with low-tier dating offers. When we hear about them struggling with low-tier dating offers, we are envious of them because we'd much rather have that than radio silence.
Important to add: I don't think there's anything morally wrong with women not finding me attractive. This is one major difference when comparing sexual assault to the state of inceldom. I'm only comparing the emotional impact on the person on the receiving end, not making a moral judgement.
