For some reason everything you say sounds like a larp... "my mum kissed me when I was three and it scarred me for life"... what kind of touching? You mean wipe you after you wet the bed?
Told you to get naked? We need context... I mean I used to take baths with my mother as a young teen and that sure as hell didn't fuck me up
By the way OP, I got abused by a fucking faggot when I was 11 and got over it on my own, never told anyone, now what was going to truly fuck me up was listening to soys online saying shit like :" oh fuck there is no recovering from that" so I was gaslighted into thinking that my life was over because of that incident and it did a number on me for a while, I also used it as a scapegoat for my shortcomings: I fuck up somewhere? Oh must be because I got diddled, even if that wasn't the case... blow things out of proportion and you'll only hurt yourself more, once I realized that I stopped giving two shits and the memory stopped "haunting me".