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What is arranged marriage?
This part from Wikipedia describes different types of arranged marriage pretty good:
People who marry because they love each other end up divorcing after a relatively short while, what do you think are your chances, as an incel, to make her not only not hate you but love you. Meaning you have to not only not follow the trend, but also reverse it. What makes you think marriage can make someone attracted to you? Specially if you are blackpilled which most people here claim to be. A blackpilled person will know that married or not, that female is not going to ever love them.
This also raises the question of divorce. She doesn't love you, so how do you know she won't get a divorce? If she does how much money would you have to pay her? Will the divorce money and the marriage costs be worth the sex you have got in return? In a real world scenario you should take all of this into account.
So love is out of the equation. What are we looking at here then? We're looking at a life-long contract of betabuxxing in return for the occasional sex. It's like a deal with the devil. You're giving everything you have in return for sex. Is that really what you want?
Let's take a better look at this deal. Let's see what you're giving and what you're receiving.
What you receive:
What you give:
Terms for breaking this deal:
Depending on where you live you're going to have to pay her a shitton of money if you want to break this deal. If children are involved she'll probably get them too.
So this is our deal we're looking at. This is what arranged marriage really is like in real world.
Now one couldn't possibly be seriously suggesting that this is a good deal. To put so much money, time and effort into something in return for the occasional sex that you might or might not get and will unquestionably become unenjoyable after a few years.
Anyone who suggests this is a good deal is either:
LARPing: You're not saying it seriously, you're just fucking around and joking. You yourself wouldn't actually in your real life put everything you have on the table just to get some sex for a few years. Heck you could get prostitutes probably with less money and effort and zero responsibilities.
An idiot: You're so naive that you have this fairy tale image of arranged marriage in your head where your wife is an obedient slave, you just feed her and she gives you enjoyable sex anytime you want; your money is yours, you have your freedom, your life is not changed, only sex is added to it. (1)
Or you're even a bigger idiot thinking that she's gonna fall in love with you and you're gonna go out holding hands like lovebird, eating icecream, going to movies, and when you come home from work she's gonna spread her legs for you to fuck her wet pussy because all she could think about all day was being fucked by you.
A sexual retard: Someone who has reached such heights of horniness that he actually finds this deal good. He realizes that the sex is short termed, and that the price is long-term and insane, but despite that he still finds arranged marriage a desirable option.
Summary:
Arranged marriage means marriage without love. Which means you are entering a contract where you receive a few years (at best) of sex in return for your life-long slavery to your wife and all the other costs that comes with marriage. I cannot believe that anyone in their right mind would ever pay such a price for sex. You could pay prostitutes with money and get sex. The sex would be more enjoyable because of novelty, the cost would be only financial, and even that would probably be lower than the overall financial cost of being married.
Footnotes:
(1): Maybe in some parts of some third world countries this is still possible. Tho I don't know to what extent and how common it is.
Bonus Content:
Here's some interesting stuff I just found during writing this thread while I was searching for completely unrelated things.
This part from Wikipedia describes different types of arranged marriage pretty good:
- Forced Arranged Marriage: parents or guardians select, the individuals are neither consulted nor have any say before the marriage.
- Consensual Arranged Marriage: parents or guardians select, then the individuals are consulted, who consider and consent, and each individual has the power to refuse; sometimes, the individuals meet – in family setting or privately – before engagement and marriage.
- Self-Selected Marriage: individuals select, then parents or guardians are consulted, who consider and consent, and where parents or guardians have the power of veto.
People who marry because they love each other end up divorcing after a relatively short while, what do you think are your chances, as an incel, to make her not only not hate you but love you. Meaning you have to not only not follow the trend, but also reverse it. What makes you think marriage can make someone attracted to you? Specially if you are blackpilled which most people here claim to be. A blackpilled person will know that married or not, that female is not going to ever love them.
This also raises the question of divorce. She doesn't love you, so how do you know she won't get a divorce? If she does how much money would you have to pay her? Will the divorce money and the marriage costs be worth the sex you have got in return? In a real world scenario you should take all of this into account.
So love is out of the equation. What are we looking at here then? We're looking at a life-long contract of betabuxxing in return for the occasional sex. It's like a deal with the devil. You're giving everything you have in return for sex. Is that really what you want?
Let's take a better look at this deal. Let's see what you're giving and what you're receiving.
What you receive:
- Sex: Sex is the only reason you're doing this arranged marriage. And let's not forget you're not getting love in an arranged marriage, you're getting sex. Now this isn't teen sex. This isn't carefree college sex. This isn't Chad one night stand. This is marriage sex. Sex with the same person for the rest of your life. And it's worse than other people's marriage sex because she never even fell in love with you in the first place. It's going to become less and less enjoyable and after (at best) a few years it's going to be not any more enjoyable than fucking a doll.
What you give:
- Money: A lot of money will be spend on the wedding itself. Arranged marriage happens in third world so we're looking at an expensive marriage. A lot of money will also be spent on her everyday life. A lot of money will also be spent on all the stuff she wants, shoes, dresses, cosmetics, you name it. If children are involved then it's even more money. This money unlike the sex has no due time. You will spend more and more even when the sex gets less and less enjoyable.
- Time: Your free time has to be spent with her. Now to remind you again she isn't a carefree college gf who is in love with you. She's a nagging wife you married only for sex. I guarantee you don't want to spend time with a wife, specially not an arranged marriage wife.
- Freedom: Your giving up your freedom entirely. You can't go wherever you want, you can't do whatever you want, you can't play games, you can't do hobbies, you can't do shit unless she agrees to it. Again this isn't some lovebird scenario, it's an arranged marriage. Even if there is some excitement in the beginning (and believe me in a lot of cases it's fucked up from the very beginning) after a couple years the last thing you want is to do the things she wants to do.
- Energy: All the slavery and fights and hardships is going to take a lot of mental energy from you. The same as being an incel is taking. So don't think all the mental pressure is going to go away with marriage. It probably gets even worse.
Terms for breaking this deal:
Depending on where you live you're going to have to pay her a shitton of money if you want to break this deal. If children are involved she'll probably get them too.
So this is our deal we're looking at. This is what arranged marriage really is like in real world.
Now one couldn't possibly be seriously suggesting that this is a good deal. To put so much money, time and effort into something in return for the occasional sex that you might or might not get and will unquestionably become unenjoyable after a few years.
Anyone who suggests this is a good deal is either:
LARPing: You're not saying it seriously, you're just fucking around and joking. You yourself wouldn't actually in your real life put everything you have on the table just to get some sex for a few years. Heck you could get prostitutes probably with less money and effort and zero responsibilities.
An idiot: You're so naive that you have this fairy tale image of arranged marriage in your head where your wife is an obedient slave, you just feed her and she gives you enjoyable sex anytime you want; your money is yours, you have your freedom, your life is not changed, only sex is added to it. (1)
Or you're even a bigger idiot thinking that she's gonna fall in love with you and you're gonna go out holding hands like lovebird, eating icecream, going to movies, and when you come home from work she's gonna spread her legs for you to fuck her wet pussy because all she could think about all day was being fucked by you.
A sexual retard: Someone who has reached such heights of horniness that he actually finds this deal good. He realizes that the sex is short termed, and that the price is long-term and insane, but despite that he still finds arranged marriage a desirable option.
Summary:
Arranged marriage means marriage without love. Which means you are entering a contract where you receive a few years (at best) of sex in return for your life-long slavery to your wife and all the other costs that comes with marriage. I cannot believe that anyone in their right mind would ever pay such a price for sex. You could pay prostitutes with money and get sex. The sex would be more enjoyable because of novelty, the cost would be only financial, and even that would probably be lower than the overall financial cost of being married.
Footnotes:
(1): Maybe in some parts of some third world countries this is still possible. Tho I don't know to what extent and how common it is.
Bonus Content:
Here's some interesting stuff I just found during writing this thread while I was searching for completely unrelated things.
Indian bride refuses to marry balding doctor at their arranged wedding
Neurosurgeon Ravi Kumar travelled almost 1,000km across India to marry the bride he had never met but she turned him down when he removed his ceremonial headpiece minutes before the vows.
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Mumbai: Man hides his baldness, new wife registers police case | Mumbai News - Times of India
A 27-year-old chartered accountant has filed a case of breach of trust against her Mira Road-based husband for hiding the fact that he is bald.The cou
timesofindia.indiatimes.com
40% of Indian wives have regular sexual intercourse with men other than her husband: Report - Times of India
As per the shocking study conducted by an online app fpr extra-marital affair, the number of women having sex outside marriage is way greater than the
timesofindia.indiatimes.com
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