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https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/435g9p/how-to-help-an-incel-sex-therapist
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Wtf does the bolded even mean? He meets the qualification? The only thing you told us is he was a 30 yr old Indian.
HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND!!!
Hit the gym, take a shower, get a haircut, now give me $1000, see you next time inkwell! Can't make this up.
And of course, picture of the roastie interviewer and her BF:
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Jason is a 30-year-old who grew up in a big city in India but now lives in Gothenburg, Sweden. He gets lonely there, what with being a cultural outsider and living alone—something he has long hoped to fix by getting a girlfriend. He doesn't identify as "incel" per se, although he certainly meets the baseline qualification of being involuntarily celibate, which is how he found himself asking the braincels community for advice.
Wtf does the bolded even mean? He meets the qualification? The only thing you told us is he was a 30 yr old Indian.
Well, how do you help someone work through that when they're blaming these immutable characteristics, some of which actually do face prejudice?
I wish there was a one-size-fits-all solution, but for him a lot of it is asking what his strengths are, what he's good at, and what he values in himself. What does he feel competent in that he can lean on for some measure of feeling affirmed? One thing was that he had a girlfriend, but they were never sexual, which he blamed on his ethnicity because she ended up ditching him and dating a more stereotypical white guy. That made him feel more inadequate.
HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND!!!
So what do you do in those situations? A pick-up artist, for instance, might encourage some more traditionally masculine activities, like going to the gym. Does a therapist do any of that, or just press finding a more suitable partner?
So he was starting to go to the gym, and I said it was fine if he was going to do it for his own health or benefit, but if he was going to do it to try and attract another woman, then it could continue the cycle of inadequacy. I think one major shift that he needed a little bit of changing was his wardrobe, body language, and hairstyle. In the beginning, he didn't even comb his hair. After a few months, I did say, "Have you ever considered that your presentation can affect that?"—in the most diplomatic way possible.
Hit the gym, take a shower, get a haircut, now give me $1000, see you next time inkwell! Can't make this up.
And of course, picture of the roastie interviewer and her BF: