Serious Chubby chaser (me) cannot find a woman. Incel? Volcel? Redpilled turning black.

[Blacksmith]

Note! NOT TROLLING!

What would you say about this situation?
It has made me a very lonely person, and keeps me totally without romantic relations.

I have a set of preferences when looking for a partner. I am searching for a positive, kind hearted, intelligent, curious and loyal woman. (One can dream, haha, but that is what I aim for.)
A good sense of humor, and low body count are important too. A fairly tall order in itself in north Europe, but maybe not impossible, if it was not for one thing. I am what you call a "chubby chaser".
This means while I am only attracted to overweight women. Around 140 kg (or more) is good in my book. Having researched this a lot, it seems that some men are just "wired" like this.

For me, it is not really a "preference", more like a hard pass/fail. With regular sized women, even as beautiful as ie Ana de Armas, I simply feel no attraction. Nada.
I can walk in an upscale city area for hours and not see any woman that could make me aroused. They are just "genderless" to me, not male, not female. I could not have a "romantic relationship" with any of them, just a "friend".

Anyways, I am SO tired of being alone, and I am still on a lookout for a quality woman, and who is overweight. Northern Europe people are generally slim, and especially educated women in their 30s and 40s. Overweight females here tend to be chain smoking "welfare ladies", or blue haired leftists, or divorced with kids in a chaotic mess, or married. They are not for me, I am not for them.

So, "supply" is depressingly low. Then there is the moral aspect, which also hurts my brain.

Excess weight, and to encourage it, is intellectually so wrong! There are negative health aspects even when being active and avoiding junk food, there is a BAD(!) stigma in society, there are practicalities like finding nice clothes, getting hired and so on. If I ever found such a woman, the few people I have around me might not accept her, etc. (I could live with that, maybe she cannot?)

So with VERY few women to even approach, and then feeling I should not encourage any potential (!) girlfriend to remain, or become (more) overweight, I do not know what to do. This has greatly contributed to the sad state I am in. Oh, aside from striking upp the rare conversation with women in my daily life (leading nowhere), I have obviously tried online, and it has not been working out. Online, there are always some Chads getting 80% of the women, or the women are only there for attention, not genuine relationships. Or, many of the women have baggage enough to fill a shipping continer.

 

[Mecoja]

They all have high standards so it doesn't matter much. Im attracted to any weight any type, still no luck because of many things but mainly my damn height.

 

[Fire]

One tip: avoid DMing fat women online and approach them in person instead. E-foids are vicious.

 

[Blacksmith]

They all have high standards so it doesn't matter much. Im attracted to any weight any type, still no luck because of many things but mainly

One tip: avoid DMing fat women online and approach them in person instead. E-foids are vicious.

Thanks. Not doing any DMs. Have tried before but I do not use any Instagram, Tik-tok, facebook etc.
Like I said, in person? Virtually no women that size here, at all.

 

[Fire]

Like I said, in person? Virtually no women that size here, at all.

Then move or look hardER

 

[Blacksmith]

They all have high standards so it doesn't matter much. Im attracted to any weight any type, still no luck because of many things but mainly my damn height.

Yep. They seem as random and picky as normal weight women. One good thing (if any) from being a chubby chaser is that I am so relaxed when talking to slim, "good looking" women (general life) as I do not care. At all.
But, they do not care about me too, haha...
And it still does not help in finding a partner.

 

[Sir Silentium]

They all have high standards so it doesn't matter much

 

[Blacksmith]

Then move or look hardER

Moving (far) abroad is not an option for the time being.
Been looking for years. One problem is that many places where people meet will not attract any (or very few) obese, non slutty women.
Gym? Nope.
Hiking? Nope.
Team sports? Nope.
Church life is virtually non existent in northern Europe.
Bars? Nope, I have standards.
Workplaces? Not really.
Library? Never happened to me.
I have been on the lookout for years, zero real success.

So? Volcel? Incel?

 

[SrutalBeggs]

Weird fetish ngl but I shouldn't throw stones because I myself live in a glass house.

Good luck in your search, and you're still an incel until you ascend. It's alright and not volcelly to have standards.

 

[Blacksmith]

Weird fetish ngl but I shouldn't throw stones because I myself live in a glass house.

Good luck in your search, and you're still an incel until you ascend. It's alright and not volcelly to have standards.

Thanks!
The size thing is not so much standards and preference. More like an orientation, as I feel NO attraction to slender women, they are as irrelevant as a male would be.

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

They all have high standards so it doesn't matter much. Im attracted to any weight any type, still no luck because of many things but mainly my damn height.

I hate how fat women even have tons of options man

 

[Blacksmith]

I hate how fat women heven have tons of options man

The imbalance is real....
And with most men, overweight is the absolutely WORST characteristic in a woman. Still, the "bottom of the barrel" women have very lofty standards in men.

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

The imbalance is real....
And with most men, overweight is the absolutely WORST characteristic in a woman. Still, the "bottom of the barrel" women have very lofty standards in men.

Yep, it’s so fucked

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

I wish all Chads had your 'condition', so I would keep all the slim track & field foids for me.

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

Anyway here's how it is:
for women, it doesn't matter how you are, because you'll find a man whose preferences you match perfectly;
and for men, it doesn't matter what preferences you have, because all women want the same kind of man.

You get it? Women don't have preferences, and men have all kinds of preferences. You could like obese NEET girls in wheelchair, they would still be Chad-only and have an assortment of Chads ready to pick from.

 

[LOLI BREEDING]

same actually. I thought it'd be easy too, you know since they're fat. meanwhile I'm fit. but they basically have the same standards as any other femshit and like you said it's rare and most of them are that way because they're primitive slobs that eat trash and behave like trash

it used to be different

How times change

I rember just 20 years ago being a fat femshit meant widespread ridicule. as a fit but ugly, not turbomanlet guy you had higher smv than a fattie. of course I was only 11 then. it was acceptable and commonplace to make fun of fat w*men, now you get called an incel for it and cancelled :society...

incels.is

if they felt bad about it and were bullied hard for it, it'd be different. it's literally that simple. but that barely happens anymore. femshits have allied together and only blow smoke up the ass of even the most subhuman of them. and soys wouldn't dare say anything bad these days

age? I'm 31

 

[incel20]

same

fat whores have rejected me. many weigh more than I do

Fat women have more smv than an ethnic college athlete

 

[Blacksmith]

Thanks for all the replies.

So, my problem is not getting rejected, or fear preventing from approaching a woman I find good looking. My problem is I basically do not FIND any woman of interest to me. If it happens that I see someone that big and in an OK age range (a few times per year), I will typically spot her husband and/or kids seconds later.

If there is no even remotely compatible woman to even lay eyes on, am I an incel? Volcel? Something else?

Regardless, it sucks.

 

[unionistcel]

I can kinda relate yes defo incel but try not to LDAR

 

[Blacksmith]

I can kinda relate yes defo incel but try not to LDAR

LDAR = Lay down and rot?

 

[unionistcel]

LDAR = Lay down and rot?

Don’t LDAR but yes that’s what it means

 

[BPJ]

I wish all Chads had your 'condition', so I would keep all the slim track & field foids for me.

assuming they wouldnt rather spend eternity alone

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

assuming they wouldnt rather spend eternity alone

True, they would all turn lesbians or gain weight on purpose.