The absolute worst though began after I got married. I don’t know if some women see the ring as a “challenge” or what, but I’ve been told some insane things in front of my wife. And by strangers!
When we go out together I get approached directly. They see us together, walk right past her, sometimes stand betweenus, and start chatting me up. My wife is also very conventionally attractive and when we’re out we’re usually doing something that “links” us like sitting close or holding hands, and people will just squeeze between us sometimes. For the record, we’ve never had a man do this to me to talk to my wife, but women do it to talk to me fairly often. I thought that would be the worst, and then we had a kid.
If I go somewhere alone with my kid, I get approached directly. I’ve had women tell me that I can “be their baby daddy too” when out in public. My wife has had her single friends “joke” that I can “put a baby in them if it comes out that cute.” I put “joke” in quotes because more than one of those women approached me about it seriously (and thus became not friends shortly after).
A little while ago one of my wife’s friends linked her a candid picture of me that was posted to an Instagram feed called “DILFS of Disneyland” with literally hundreds of people (I won’t say women, it’s the internet after all) talking about what they would let/make me do to them. It’s just a picture of me smiling while walking with my kid. I felt fucking violated.
This post got a little long, but I guess it boils down to this: if you’re good looking, you get a lot of unwanted attention. Most of the time it’s no big deal. Sometimes it’s just weird and a little uncomfortable. Other times it makes you want to go off the grid and give up on humanity.
