Lv99_BixNood
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It's impossible for roasties to be sexually attracted to sub-8 men
I am starting to believe that sexual/physical attraction and emotional attraction are mutually exclusive
I (24F) have dated my fair share of men. And maybe I’m becoming bitter and need to take a break from the dating scene but I’m starting to believe that physical/sexual attraction and compatibility and emotional attraction and compatibility are mutually EXclusive.
In my experiences, the men that I have had good physical and sexual compatibility with have been very bad for me emotionally. And when I meet a man that I have emotional attraction to, the physical attraction and sexual compatibility doesn’t really exist. I have tried to go on a decent amount of dates to give time for a physical attraction to occur with someone I emotionally connect to but it never happens. And during physical intimacy, I’m always disappointed and bored.
I desperately want to make it work with someone that I emotionally connect with but I also don’t want to sacrifice my sex life and attraction. Likewise, I don’t want to sacrifice my emotional well being just because I’m having good sex or finding them get attractive with someone.
So I’m starting to feel hopeless on finding love that works in those aspects of attraction. I don’t want to feel like I’m settling on someone but I’m also feeling like that’s what’s ultimately going to happen. Does anyone else relate to these thoughts?