when someone gives you blupilled advice they are only tying to reassert themselves as sexually succesful
statements "like just be yourself"(most blatant example) come with the implication that the person knows what its like to be succesful in the dating market and that they didnt have to put much effort in order to succeed, its way of simultaneously appearing as virtuous and helpful while actually putting you down by comparison; if all it took for this person to be "themselves" than how pathetic you must be since youve been trying so hard to ascend all these years?
statements "like just be yourself"(most blatant example) come with the implication that the person knows what its like to be succesful in the dating market and that they didnt have to put much effort in order to succeed, its way of simultaneously appearing as virtuous and helpful while actually putting you down by comparison; if all it took for this person to be "themselves" than how pathetic you must be since youve been trying so hard to ascend all these years?
