Now whore's gonna shit on poor brocels to feel better. Burn in hell incelphobic whore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
I (25F) matched with this guy (33M) on hinge about two-ish weeks ago. He’s not who I would normally go for but I thought I’d try something different since my ex and I broke up to see if the problem is the type of guy I usually go for. I’m not someone who sleeps around, my number is in single digits and I’d like to keep it there for as long as possible. I’m a confident woman and I’m not bad looking.
Anyway, I went on a bowling date with him, he was 20-25 minutes late despite letting me know he’s going to be a few minutes late tops… we had a good night regardless. Spent about 3 hours on this date until the shops closed. We continued talking and it was really fun and easy going.
Last night, I had an early Christmas dinner with friends and we started texting again. He asked if I wanted to come over and I wasn’t sure because I had work this morning. I went over anyway and we watched a comedy, laughed and had some banter so it was great. He slowly made a move after about an hour and I eventually got on top and started it. I laughed a bit and said, “I thought you’d never kiss me” and we proceeded to make out. It was going good. We both got undressed and he went down on me and I returned the favor. He seemed to enjoy it too much and because i didn’t want it to end so quickly, I asked if he had a condom which he said yes but it’s in the car. I laughed a bit and said “okay could you please go get it” he then called me “intense” which I’m kind of taking offence to right now.
He came back and I proceeded to get him ready again. He laid back, said he hates condoms as he put it on anyway and I got on top. Everything felt good, he didn’t just completely starfish so he did a bit of touching. I eventually took his hands and held on to them by his head and did a bit of dirty talk. He enjoyed it and it was over soon. He went to clean up and I was chilling on bed waiting for him to help me finish when he’s done. That didn’t happen which is fine. We watched more tv and he started falling asleep. I left and got home after 2. Sent a “just got home” message and fell asleep.
The “intense” comment was stuck in my head so I asked him to let me know when he’s up because I just wanted to clarify with him if that’s a bad thing or not.
Turns out he blocked me. This really knocked my confidence and I’m a bit hurt by the lack of respect and communication from someone in their 30s.
Has someone else experienced something like this or do you have any idea if calling someone “intense” is a bad thing? I’m not generally insecure but THIS comment is throwing me off.
Add: if he didn’t want to continue seeing me, I’d have appreciated him being mature and telling me he’s no longer interested. That’s fine by me as I’m obviously not going to force someone to continue seeing me. If he communicated that with me, I’d respect his decision and would’ve asked to clarify the comment because that’s what I don’t understand.
UPDATE: I received a text from him saying he’s not sure if I’d messaged him but he didn’t get it because he blocked me (before i got to my car!) because he felt ashamed for not giving me an orgasm and for finishing “faster than I normally would”. I asked him about the “intense” comment and he said he didn’t think I’d be confident in the bedroom as I was on the first date and he was taken aback because he’s used to women around my age who are less confident in the bedroom. I asked him if he wanted to have sex last night (because some of these comments made me second guess his consent) and he said yes so that’s cleared up. He apologised for blocking me and going about it the wrong way and I told him I’m not interested in continuing this and he was fine with it. Thank you for the opinions and comments!
(Please don’t be rude with your comments. That’s not what I’m asking for)
View: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/r3t9s0/we_had_one_date_and_had_sex_on_the_second_meet_he/
I (25F) matched with this guy (33M) on hinge about two-ish weeks ago. He’s not who I would normally go for but I thought I’d try something different since my ex and I broke up to see if the problem is the type of guy I usually go for. I’m not someone who sleeps around, my number is in single digits and I’d like to keep it there for as long as possible. I’m a confident woman and I’m not bad looking.
Anyway, I went on a bowling date with him, he was 20-25 minutes late despite letting me know he’s going to be a few minutes late tops… we had a good night regardless. Spent about 3 hours on this date until the shops closed. We continued talking and it was really fun and easy going.
Last night, I had an early Christmas dinner with friends and we started texting again. He asked if I wanted to come over and I wasn’t sure because I had work this morning. I went over anyway and we watched a comedy, laughed and had some banter so it was great. He slowly made a move after about an hour and I eventually got on top and started it. I laughed a bit and said, “I thought you’d never kiss me” and we proceeded to make out. It was going good. We both got undressed and he went down on me and I returned the favor. He seemed to enjoy it too much and because i didn’t want it to end so quickly, I asked if he had a condom which he said yes but it’s in the car. I laughed a bit and said “okay could you please go get it” he then called me “intense” which I’m kind of taking offence to right now.
He came back and I proceeded to get him ready again. He laid back, said he hates condoms as he put it on anyway and I got on top. Everything felt good, he didn’t just completely starfish so he did a bit of touching. I eventually took his hands and held on to them by his head and did a bit of dirty talk. He enjoyed it and it was over soon. He went to clean up and I was chilling on bed waiting for him to help me finish when he’s done. That didn’t happen which is fine. We watched more tv and he started falling asleep. I left and got home after 2. Sent a “just got home” message and fell asleep.
The “intense” comment was stuck in my head so I asked him to let me know when he’s up because I just wanted to clarify with him if that’s a bad thing or not.
Turns out he blocked me. This really knocked my confidence and I’m a bit hurt by the lack of respect and communication from someone in their 30s.
Has someone else experienced something like this or do you have any idea if calling someone “intense” is a bad thing? I’m not generally insecure but THIS comment is throwing me off.
Add: if he didn’t want to continue seeing me, I’d have appreciated him being mature and telling me he’s no longer interested. That’s fine by me as I’m obviously not going to force someone to continue seeing me. If he communicated that with me, I’d respect his decision and would’ve asked to clarify the comment because that’s what I don’t understand.
UPDATE: I received a text from him saying he’s not sure if I’d messaged him but he didn’t get it because he blocked me (before i got to my car!) because he felt ashamed for not giving me an orgasm and for finishing “faster than I normally would”. I asked him about the “intense” comment and he said he didn’t think I’d be confident in the bedroom as I was on the first date and he was taken aback because he’s used to women around my age who are less confident in the bedroom. I asked him if he wanted to have sex last night (because some of these comments made me second guess his consent) and he said yes so that’s cleared up. He apologised for blocking me and going about it the wrong way and I told him I’m not interested in continuing this and he was fine with it. Thank you for the opinions and comments!
(Please don’t be rude with your comments. That’s not what I’m asking for)
View: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/r3t9s0/we_had_one_date_and_had_sex_on_the_second_meet_he/
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