riceronicel
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He was 5'6. Grew to 5'9 post surgery. He's an American. Got his surgery in Curryland. He was 28 when he got it. It cost him $15K. He also admitted if he had a kid who wanted the surgery, he would encourage his kid to do it. That's based as fuck and I wish I had him as my own dad in 20 years lol.
Several things I want to point out on what he said about foids seeing himself and short people:
More or less I was just tired of feeling like I had to make up for my height. Like I had to be more charming more outgoing more qualified for the same things and i'll admit mainly women. I have female friends who flat out in the past have told me the only reason they wouldn't date me was because of my height.
Fucking BRUTAL. That is all.
<Have you gotten rejected a lot because of your height before?>
Many times except it's typically not a direct rejection. For example in my teenage years and early twenties I would just be a girls friend with benefits. We'd have a good time together and as long as she knew that other people thought we were friends there was never a problem with us going out in public. You're having a sexual relationship with a person who only wants others to think of you as friends. A couple times I've powered through it by being persistent and eventually gaining some form of a relationship but all that work and it's built on an uneven foundation. I'm always the aggressor always the one expected to do more for my partner. It's taxing.
Absolutely brutal. He doesn't ID himself as incel, and rightfully so bc he had FWB with foids. And this pursuit of foids, yet people wonder why divorce rates are so fucking high. It's because we have to do this fucking dance where we fucking court foids left and right and so now the foundation is uneven as fuck, as OP says.
<Did you ever feel like you were at risk of never finding a SO because of your natural height?>
100% yes. I only really started feeling this fear though after about 23 when I started meeting new people who didn't know me at all. That's when I realized how SOL I am when it comes to women finding me relationship attractive. I thought perhaps I wasn't putting out enough effort but I'd have friends say "you're trying too hard."
Something that I thought at the time was good advice from a friend was * just focus on building yourself into the person you want to be and it will attract quality people.* Which in part is true. I attract better people because I've worked hard to invest in myself and the people around me but guess what the rules of dating don't change. You're still attracting women but you're still in the same friend zone. You just become the guy who's always invited to come and hang out with your friends and their significant others. I'm kind of venting here if you can't tell, ha.
Of course he felt this way. And this is the kicker: "you're trying too hard" SO FUCKING INCEL TEAR FUCKS AND NORMIES STOP TELLING US TO HAVE A GOOD PERSONALITY AND BEING CONFIDENT! YOU STUPID FUCKS WE GIVE UP BECAUSE WE KEEP GETTING THIS TYPE OF FUCKING RESPONSE YOU FUCKING CUCKS.
<Becoming "forever alone" as they call it, or involuntarily childless/celibate. Or do you think you honestly could have, given enough effort, only with worse chances? In general, what's your dating life been like so far?>
I have always been really aggressive and assertive. It's one of the few advantages of being my former height is you don't intimidate anybody. Especially the girl you're trying to date who might be used to less aggressive but maybe more attractive guy's. Up until about two years ago that's what I would do. I'd meet a girl and if I found her attractive I would be clear that I liked her and just keep reaching out to her until she finally agreed to hang out. I stopped doing this because it's not genuine and it's ridiculously taxing on me to maintain and it all just kind of ends once I stop putting forth so much energy if the girl never asks you to hang out or expresses interest first. It did however "work" in that I would end up hooking up with the girl and then have that feeling of loss or empty-ness after I'd realize this isn't going anywhere. I probably repeated this over and over again for about 3 years. I don't do it anymore. If a girl doesn't express any initial interest like even a text back with some form of a question I just leave it alone.
I remember a pretty cool quote "you can try and spend your time convincing people or you can focus on those that are already convinced"
That more or less is where I was at with things the past couple years. I started going after girls that had expressed some form of interest and the actual relationships got better. I mean really basic stuff like asking me to hang out. I know the traditional role is for men to always be aggressive but I always see it with my taller friends. Girls give clear signs that they're interested.
here was the kind of sucky part After finally getting what I believe to be a more equal feel for relationships the past couple years I can say that I'm not sexually attracted to the girls I've been dating recently. It's a two part thing 1) The girls that I've been going for that have expressed some initial interest versus the girls I simply wore down with persistence are a lot less physically attractive. Might sound shallow but we want to be attracted to are partners too right? 2)This is the part that really sucks but I acknowledge it and am working on getting past it. When a girl finally express a genuine interest in me I started thinking "whats going on here." It's so foreign and unnatural almost. I'm used to being the aggressor. I'm used to finding out all the things a girl is interested in without very much interest in return so having a person giving you that time and attention is a newer feeling for me. I'd say something that I'm adjusting to but only happening over the past couple of years since I changed the type of relationships I'm looking for.
I'm hoping that after coming back to the US I'll be able to find both a girl I'm attracted to and that we can have a more equal relationship. I see some of my friends in those relationships and I would love to even have some of there problems some of their pointless arguments if it meant I had a partner. Longest post ever.
None of his positives would have happened if he wasn't already tall. Tall Chads simply have it better. Period.
A QUESTION HE GOT: I think the fact that people are willing to put themselves through this is sad. It's your decision and I'm not going to criticize you in the slightest, I just find it depressing that height is such an issue in society that you were willing to put yourself through this.
HIS RESPONSE: I agree 100%. Wish it wasn't this way but it IS. I want you to think about this though. I could have spent the rest of my life always being upset about my height and I think that would have been more painful. I just went through alot of pain but it's already in the past. Now I just need to focus on walking and my bones healing properly.
It's sad as fuck, yet it's baffling people focus on us reacting angrily to society's rules rather than society's rules itself. It's heightism as its finest. Keep the shortcels down while you uphold the status quo.
And aren't we supposed to push the limits? If there's something we want to fix, we do what we can to fix it? So OP in this case actually fucking DID something about his situation (which is more than I will ever think about or do so fuck me) and if he ever went public with this, he will get flacked left and right by foids.