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I felt so bad just reading this. He is so deep in denial of his fate. Just accept it, you will never have a chance. It was decided as soon as you were born.
I'm 26 and I have Asperger's and I'm really weird looking. I'm not in bad shape but my face looks really weird and I'm pretty sure I have facial features indicative of a developmental disability. I'm basically really weird and I'm worried I come off as an awkward perma-virgin or a creepy loser like the guys who post on /r/braincels.
The girls my friends would hang out with basically ignored me in favor of the better-looking normal guys
There was another girl in the same organization who was honestly one of the sexiest women I've ever met and I'd always end up thinking about how hot she is, which I realize is totally normal and healthy, but it made me feel gross because she clearly looked down on me and she'd be disgusted if she knew what kind of thoughts I have about her.
Top reply:basically as soon as I start talking they seem totally uninterested, or even uncomfortable, so I just stop
Regarding your appearance: If your face is as you say, that's something you're stuck with, just like the autism. You have to accept it. Its not the end of the world though, at a techno club I go to often I see a guy who basically has an ogre face and he always has his nice looking girlfriend with him all the time. I know lots of "average" to "below average" guys who hang around my social circle and they've all had girlfriends and sex. But you should get a therapist to make sure you don't have body dysmorphic disorder and to work on the autism. Definitely start dressing better. At least where clothes that fit and find some fashionable sneakers. Some message boards are good, but try not to get so generic. Lose any extra weight or otherwise do something athletic if you have no fitness. Groom yourself well. Get a haircut at least every two months at a professional independent stylist and barber with 4 stars on yelp/google. At least 2 times a week. Shower 4-7 times a week. This won't turn you from a 3 to a 9 but it's the best you can do right now.