basically from age 18-34 or so everything I did in life was to work towards setting myself up to slide in to a betabuxx role with an average to above average nice girl who was family oriented, intelligent, shared similar interests. Sure I knew when that girl was in her early, mid, and maybe even late 20s it was chad only time, but then I thought "okay, they'll realize they want to get married, have a family, etc and then get serious about a guy like me when they realize it's not practical or going to happen with chad". So I study hard in college, kill the mcat, get into med school, work hard to get through that, then do residency......all the while thinking I'm setting myself up to get a nice girl who will want the same things at want.
So I get to that point....I'm making good money, I'm an attending, I've got a nice house, nice car, etc etc. I have friends at work and on the surface am a 'success'. Surely I've put myself in position for one of those girls right?
Well the reality is I was thinking along the exact right lines. Around that time there were a number of girls who were exactly what I wanted who were looking to settle down with someone like me on paper. And they did.......but each time with someone like me but just a little bit better looking(ie a 4-4.5 rather than a 3-3.5).......
so essentially I just got beat out by another person just like me trying to betabuxx that type of girl. But they were just a little better looking(although still below average)