Venting Anyone else frustrated with their lack of skills/talents?

[Deleted member 17724]

It's during times like these when I have a lot of free time on my hands that I realize just how pointless life is when you don't have some sort of creative endeavor to direct your energy at. I can't play a musical instrument, I know the basics of programming but not enough to create anything noteworthy, I can draw slightly better than most people but still not good enough that I could create something I can look at and be proud of, I'm not athletic, I seem incapable of learning any languages besides my native one and English.
I've tried many times to acquire such skills but my lack of patience combined with the realization that it would take me years to reach a level that I'd actually be satisfied with always makes me lose motivation in the long run.

I feel like being incel would be less of an issue to me if I at least had something to be proud of and to be able to make my mark on the world. For example, why give a shit about your lack of pussy if you could be a master at your craft and make lots of money off something you love doing?

 

[Neggr]

Dunno if this will make you feel better but you are more talented than me

 

[jackwolfskin999]

I'm actually decently talented at the arts, good cope tbh ngl

 

[Blacktarpill]

Yes, thats why im lacking confidence. I suck at everything.
I love Euro Truck Sim 2, its a good confidence boost.

 

[Guest2]

I'm not really good at a whole lot, just average.

 

[mcfroggy]

You're shit BC your parents didn't put in an activity when you were a kid. Most talented ppl learned instruments and sports at a young age.

 

[Darth Cialis]

You need to apply yourself to learn, it's hard I know.

 

[Insomniac]

It used to be bother but how terrible I am at everything but I don’t care anymore tbh

 

[Napoleon de Jizzbal]

Lack of writer talemnt is not good. Have ideas who could became books, also expresse hating femoids in more literature ways be good too ¦>

 

[Words2_live_bye]

Closest thing i have to talent is playing the piano

 

[Deleted member 17724]

I'm actually decently talented at the arts, good cope tbh ngl

Good for you. Do you ever make use of it? Like, making comics or paintings.
Drawing is the closest thing I've gotten to being good at something but I suck at the technical aspect (shading, perspective etc.), I can only really draw cartoonish characters.

You're shit BC your parents didn't put in an activity when you were a kid. Most talented ppl learned instruments and sports at a young age.

My parents did actually me put on several sports but I was an anxious little faggot who didn't want to be all alone with other kids I didn't know very well so I always quit.

Closest thing i have to talent is playing the piano

I'd say that's pretty impressive. Most people cannot do that.

 

[jackwolfskin999]

Good for you. Do you ever make use of it? Like, making comics or paintings.
Drawing is the closest thing I've gotten to being good at something but I suck at the technical aspect (shading, perspective etc.), I can only really draw cartoonish characters.

My parents did actually me put on several sports but I was an anxious little faggot who didn't want to be all alone with other kids I didn't know very well so I always quit.

I'd say that's pretty impressive. Most people cannot do that.

yeah I compose a lot of music,
I draw, paint and write poetry from time to time but I havent put much time in to them so cant really say I'm skilled at those

 

[Words2_live_bye]

I'd say that's pretty impressive. Most people cannot do that.

Cause most people spend their times with their girlfriends, or having sex, or spending time with friends.
When you're a social outcast you have all the time in the world.
Trust me, i'd give up my knowledge of playing piano if i could achieve a normal life

 

[Woodvine Twiner]

I've never been good at anything I've ever tried and I've tried just about everything. To make things worse, my copes aren't really working anymore. All of this has been making me feel really bad lately.

 

[Blacktarpill]

Closest thing i have to talent is playing the piano

Thats a nice talent tbh, all i do is play Euro Truck Sim 2 and i do nothing else.

 

[Incline]

It's during times like these when I have a lot of free time on my hands that I realize just how pointless life is when you don't have some sort of creative endeavor to direct your energy at. I can't play a musical instrument, I know the basics of programming but not enough to create anything noteworthy, I can draw slightly better than most people but still not good enough that I could create something I can look at and be proud of, I'm not athletic, I seem incapable of learning any languages besides my native one and English.
I've tried many times to acquire such skills but my lack of patience combined with the realization that it would take me years to reach a level that I'd actually be satisfied with always makes me lose motivation in the long run.

I feel like being incel would be less of an issue to me if I at least had something to be proud of and to be able to make my mark on the world. For example, why give a shit about your lack of pussy if you could be a master at your craft and make lots of money off something you love doing?

Yes I am very frustrated with lack of talent in anything. I wish I could draw. If I could draw well I wouldn't care about all the incel shit I could just spend time expressing myself. But I can't do that. And don't give me stupid fucking practice-till-you-make-it speech I fucking practiced every day and I am still worthless shit. I don't have a talent for nothing if you don't have a talent don't even bother doing whatever you doing just fucking rope tbh.

 

[ihaveno1]

yes bro it pisses me off all the time, if i was actually talented at something this this shit society values my life could be so much better

 

[seija]

"I'm overeducated and underskilled"

 

[Deleted member 17724]

Cause most people spend their times with their girlfriends, or having sex, or spending time with friends.
When you're a social outcast you have all the time in the world.
Trust me, i'd give up my knowledge of playing piano if i could achieve a normal life

Well, look at it from this way: at least you're a social outcast who has some sort of skill rather than a social outcast who can't do anything noteworthy.

And don't give me stupid fucking practice-till-you-make-it speech I fucking practiced every day and I am still worthless shit.

Yeah, that was also why I kind of gave up on drawing aside from doing it casually once in a while. I did improve over time but not enough to actually be satisfied with my work. Even when you do get better, seeing other people draw so much better than you with less effort makes you feel like it's a pointless endeavor.

 

[Akkadian]

You're shit BC your parents didn't put in an activity when you were a kid. Most talented ppl learned instruments and sports at a young age.

This

 

[Deleted member 8353]

Dunno if this will make you feel better but you are more talented than me

Tbh...it's over for us.

 

[Words2_live_bye]

Well, look at it from this way: at least you're a social outcast who has some sort of skill rather than a social outcast who can't do anything noteworthy.

 

[Incline]

Well, look at it from this way: at least you're a social outcast who has some sort of skill rather than a social outcast who can't do anything noteworthy.

Yeah, that was also why I kind of gave up on drawing aside from doing it casually once in a while. I did improve over time but not enough to actually be satisfied with my work. Even when you do get better, seeing other people draw so much better than you with less effort makes you feel like it's a pointless endeavor.

Same tbh, before I could not even draw a stickman. After 2 years of solid practice and I don't mean fucking around I actually went to an art school and tried my best I believed the bluememe. Fine. I can draw better. But by better I mean I can draw something resembling a human I can't actually fucking draw anything decent. There are people who NEVER drew before who draw MUCH better than me. It's a fucking joke. I gave up no point trying. I won't fucking waste 20 years of my time just so I can improve a bit more.

 

[Deleted member 16455]

I have no talent at all. I just did well in school. Thats about it.

 

[Joelossus]

all i do is play Euro Truck Sim 2 and i do nothing else.

 

[Darth Cialis]

Yeah, that was also why I kind of gave up on drawing aside from doing it casually once in a while. I did improve over time but not enough to actually be satisfied with my work. Even when you do get better, seeing other people draw so much better than you with less effort makes you feel like it's a pointless endeavor.

It has to be something you enjoy doing and are very interested in, that way you don't give up and keep practicing. But even spending time on something and practicing doesn't mean that you are doing it correctly or in a way that stimulates a growth in your abilities.

 

[Deleted member 17235]

It has to be something you enjoy doing and are very interested in, that way you don't give up and keep practicing. But even spending time on something and practicing doesn't mean that you are doing it correctly or in a way that stimulates a growth in your abilities.

This is a really good advice, they say the same on 4chan's /ic/. You have to learn how to learn, and drawing has to be something as natural and pleasing as gaming, otherwise you are not gonna make it.

 

[blond_elf_bard]

It's during times like these when I have a lot of free time on my hands that I realize just how pointless life is when you don't have some sort of creative endeavor to direct your energy at. I can't play a musical instrument, I know the basics of programming but not enough to create anything noteworthy, I can draw slightly better than most people but still not good enough that I could create something I can look at and be proud of, I'm not athletic, I seem incapable of learning any languages besides my native one and English.
I've tried many times to acquire such skills but my lack of patience combined with the realization that it would take me years to reach a level that I'd actually be satisfied with always makes me lose motivation in the long run.

I feel like being incel would be less of an issue to me if I at least had something to be proud of and to be able to make my mark on the world. For example, why give a shit about your lack of pussy if you could be a master at your craft and make lots of money off something you love doing?

You're already ahead of the majority of American Anglophones in that you can speak more than one language.

 

[DaveBuster]

Keep working at it, do a little something each day, try to find that spark, that state of flow where you're invested in what you're doing, and chase it only for yourself.

 

[Deleted member 17599]

I just don't have enough effort and motivation to focus on the things I am good at. Talents are cope anyway though.

 

[LDARBuddah]

yes bro

 

[Wiseman]

I can relate, except I can't draw for shit (I can barely draw a circle). When you're a shut-in and a social outcast, being slightly above average at anything is hardly enough to compensate for your other shortcomings. The only way to garner respect is to be a master of some trade, rather than a jack of all.

 

[RandomGuy]

Never go full retard. Go full black pill.

Read the unfinished manuscript God and the State by Bakunin.
Also available on Audiobook.

“ By striving to do the impossible, man has always achieved what is possible. Those who have cautiously done no more than they believed possible have never taken a single step forward ”

 

[Deleted member 17419]

Skills in and of themselves are somewhat overrated as a long term cope tbh, I've mastered a few things to a very high level and as soon as I've done so I just feel "meh" more or less. By being able to do these things being the ugly worthless fucker I am the skill in question gets tainted by me associating myself with it, if that makes any sense. Instantly devalues it in my mind sadly, and it becomes disinteresting.

The process of getting there is something I can sort of recommend though, it's good distraction. A shame it ends in disappointment either way.

 

[shoji]

Yes, if my IQ was higher I’d spend my time developing skills instead of being here

 

[Deleted member 17724]

Skills in and of themselves are somewhat overrated as a long term cope tbh, I've mastered a few things to a very high level and as soon as I've done so I just feel "meh" more or less. By being able to do these things being the ugly worthless fucker I am the skill in question gets tainted by me associating myself with it, if that makes any sense. Instantly devalues it in my mind sadly, and it becomes disinteresting.

The process of getting there is something I can sort of recommend though, it's good distraction. A shame it ends in disappointment either way.

I don't like the process of getting there at all, that's why I always quit halfway through with anything I try. For me, it's the destination that's interesting. I am a perfectionist; I want to do everything perfectly at the first try and even if that doesn't work out, I see it as a waste of energy.

 

[Deleted member 17419]

I don't like the process of getting there at all, that's why I always quit halfway through with anything I try. For me, it's the destination that's interesting. I am a perfectionist; I want to do everything perfectly at the first try and even if that doesn't work out, I see it as a waste of energy.

That's a shame. Is it because you want other people to be impressed by it? That has never been a goal for me, since whatever I do people are going to do their best to hide the disgust they feel toward me due to appearance. I could cure cancer and people would still not want to be near me JFL.

Perfection runs contrary to the mind itself, there would be no need to do anything if everything was perfect. If you ask any true old master of his craft, the thing they usually remember most fondly looking back is overcoming lack of skill, and noticing improvements. Perfection is boredom, aside from human bones.

 

[Admiral_Arkantos]

I have no talent at all. I just did well in school. Thats about it.

^

 

[StaroRavager]

Maybe it bothered me at one point but I don’t think it’s a big deal now. In spite of all my failures I’m somehow content with myself

 

[Deleted member 17724]

Is it because you want other people to be impressed by it?

No, it's mainly because I don't want to feel inferior to others. I'd rather not be able to play the piano at all than play the piano but very poorly for example. I cannot stand others being superior to me in some skill that I possess.
One of the reasons why drawing brought me joy as a kid was because I was quite skilled for my age, I liked the fact that my classmates couldn't imitate what I was capable of. But now that I'm an adult, there's lots of people who can draw at a level which I will not be able to reach even with years of training.

 

[Saung-Hui Cho]

Yes, absolutely

 

[i_a_m_i]

Yeah, I wish I were good at something. Unfortunately, that's impossible. Even if I put all of my conscious effort into something- whether it be drawing, chess, programming, or whatever- I could never be better than mediocre, owing to my mediocre intelligence, lack of creativity, and low conscientiousness.

I feel like being incel would be less of an issue to me if I at least had something to be proud of and to be able to make my mark on the world. For example, why give a shit about your lack of pussy if you could be a master at your craft and make lots of money off something you love doing?

tbh

 

[mybodyisrotting]

I can get decently good at just about anything relatively quickly, but I've never achieved mastery in any field. Unless procrastination counts I guess

 

[Haywire]

My parents did actually me put on several sports but I was an anxious little faggot who didn't want to be all alone with other kids I didn't know very well so I always quit.

reminds me of how worthless i was as a child such a disappointment.

 

[Deleted member 1042]

Skills can be developed. Problem is a symptom of inceldom is anhedonia.