Blackpill American marriages that last are ones in which the husband gives in to the wife

[incel-american]

@Creep

Lmao just randomly picked up a book by my side and turned to a random page and discovered this bit:

John M Gottman is one of America's foremost researchers on marriage. In 1999, he published an intriguing study which tracked 130 newlyweds, carefully observing how the couples interacted with each other and then following up the research for six years to see which marriages were happy and stable, and which ended in divorce.

Gottman and his colleagues recorded their surprise at the outcome:

"Men should forget all that psychobabble about active listening and validation. If you want your marriage to last for a long time...just do what your wife says. Go ahead, give in to her...The marriages that did work all had one thing in common--the husband was willing to give in to the wife. We found that only those newlywed men who are accepting of influence from their wives are ending up in happy, stable marriages."

The author of the book ("The Sex Diaries") goes on to say...

So now it is men who are more emotionally dependent on their relationships--they are the ones choosing to bite their tongues and put up with unsatisfactory sexual relationships in order to stay with the women they love, and to avoid losing their families. It seems that Skyhooks were right when they sung 'All my Friends are Getting Married' -- men really are doing what they're told.


JFL

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

it's funny because (anecdotes incoming)
a lot of the guys who end up divorcing often don't go against their wifes word because they're some kind of tough guy
they just had shitty lives almost like us and can't handle many more instances where they're on the bottom and have no control, so they naturally rebel and try to wrest some control because they're literally like a cornered rat if they can't even have some leverage in their marriage, only to get BTFO once again and realise that it's either slavery or death for them

 

[Deleted member 5861]

Must explain why so many soyboys and cucks at inceltears are still married.

Great find.

 

[PersonalityChad]

So personality does matter

 

[znbox]

It's still better than divorcing and paying her alimony with no common children. When I read about this case it made me so fucking angry.

 

[mylifeistrash]

Must explain why so many soyboys and cucks at inceltears are still married.

Great find.

i swear to fucking god every married guy i met was a total submissive fucking idiot

 

[Hunter]

only exception to this rule is chad. basically betabux lifestyle = just be a slave bro

 

[Deleted member 1060]

> american
> (((marriage)))

pick one.

 

[PersonalityChad]

So, outside of marriage, women prefer a dominant personality, otherwise a completely submissive one.
I guess this could explain it.

 

[incel-american]

So, outside of marriage, women prefer a dominant personality, otherwise a completely submissive one.
I guess this could explain it.

No, I think what really happens is that even Chad realizes he's going to have constant friction in the relationship if he doesn't give in. It's constant friction and warding off her endless attempts at manipulation vs just giving in to her most of the time. Men will do the latter just to have tranquility.

 

[Gigacel]

What else is the man supposed to do with the family courts backing up the woman?

 

[Mahlo]

>Implying the modern marriage is happy or stable

Just fucking lol

 

[PersonalityChad]

No, I think what really happens is that even Chad realizes he's going to have constant friction in the relationship if he doesn't give in. It's constant friction and warding off her endless attempts at manipulation vs just giving in to her most of the time. Men will do the latter just to have tranquility.

Then what's the deal with thugmaxxing

 

[Limerencel]

So, outside of marriage, women prefer a dominant personality, otherwise a completely submissive one.
I guess this could explain it.

 

[Currycel4Life]

Lol, Chris Rock has a great bit about this: "IT'S. ALL. ABOUT. HER."

That's the only way marriages CAN work for the vast majority of men.

Women will be willing to have an even split in terms of effort and attention if the husband is chad, maybe even give him more attention than what she gets.

But most men aren't chad. So to appease your wife you need to do everything in your power to keep her happy so that she rewards you with pussy. Kinda like training a dog. Do the trick, get the treat. And she knows you'll do it because if you don't she'll just walk out the door where there are hordes of hungry starving men who'll kill and climb the the corpses for a chance at her vagina.


Pussy is a scarce resource lads.

 

[masterwizard]

Pussy is a scarce resource lads.

Its true even though it sounds ridiculous. Women have never been bigger sluts at any time in history, but its all directed upwards towards chad. Its never been more scarce for average and sub-average males.

 

[CaptainCuck]

Alpha fucks, beta bucks.

Women prefer to mate with strong headed alpha males to give their children good genes. They then want a submissive slave to help her raise another man's kids without question.

However, some women aren't able to have Chad's kids so they decide to make do by having kids with the beta slave instead. The slave still has to be submissive to her though.

 

[Deleted member 1410]

yea not gonna happen with me. I'll just be a Muslim imposter and get away with wife beatings based on our screwed up concept of "freedom of religion". where you see blackpills I see loopholes and opportunities.

 

[YungCell]

WHAT! Me and my wife keep the power in the relationship very EVEN and we've been married 30 years, our relationship works because we can always settle fights since her boyfriend gets to be the tie breaker in our decisions.

Kek

 

[RodgersSecondAdvent]

Only in the West. Can't imagine "men" being this cucked and submissive in other parts of the world.