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"I'm sorry, but you asked the question and as a woman. I feel I should answer this as it is not fair on the men to take this bullet alone.
Firstly, dating and sex are grown-up activities. You can't actually live easily without money or everyone would quit the rat race. So, yes, money is important. Hypergamy is very real and always has been. Most women will date up as it is important to us that we don't get knocked up by a man who can't provide for us.
I don't agree with paying for dating sites. Once you pay, they are designed to keep you there as you are a source of income. Don't do it is my advice to all. It may have worked for one man or woman somewhere, but for the vast majority, it doesn't. Invest time and energy into building a good profile and actually filling it in properly and practising taking decent pictures. It's a lot of work in progress for everyone.
Some people spend a lot on health and fitness. It isn't the only way you can do body weight exercises like callisthenics and just clean up your lifestyle like quit drink and smoking as well as paleolithic diet and learn about herbs and spices that will help you get to your optimum physique it takes time, effort, learning,but yes also less money. Also, athleticism and beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. It may get you noticed by a woman, but it doesn't necessarily mean you'll be will be able to keep them. Character and personality count more than most men realise.
Being presentable and hygienic is important to everyone, and if it isn't, it says a lot silently and makes people question how you were raised and what you were taught. Looking fashionable is often mistaken with wearing designer or luxury attire. They mean dress for the gaze of the gender you are interested in, and now affordable clothing is everywhere, and just learn to alter your clothes to fit better. It's cheaper but time-consuming. This means thinking before you buy and buying key pieces for long-term use and style, don't be wasteful and find your classic style.
I don't agree with plastic surgery as it is an expensive quick fix and doesn't always guarantee perfect results. I would however say start with basics that will improve your quality overall and have a higher ROI. Experiment with your hair and facial hair and work out what looks good. Get braces and see a dentist regularly oral hygiene is important. See your doctor/dermatologist if you have skin or body issues or illness. Selfcare is important. No one can love you if you don't love or take care of yourself.
Financial stability is important to everyone, especially women, as we can get pregnant and be left barefoot and pregnant. You are on your own timeline for achieving it. Most people are struggling, but it's easier to pretend that we aren't. Most people will understand and that's why many people have done it in nature, cars, cinema's hotels etc. Humans find a way to get intimate even if they live at home with parents. The right partner will understand your financial restrictions, but don't expect a woman who is used to a life of luxury to date down unless she really likes you. It's rare and the exception, not the rule. Most women won't date down in their social and economic class.
Getting a hobby means being cultured and intelligent and having something to say and teach each other. We want to be a part of each others lives and share hobbie interests as well as have you partake in ours. Otherwise, what are you doing to build a life that is enjoyable together long-term. Along with seeing if our morals and values align.
I can only say sorry, I hope I have clearly explained everything you have raised as an issue. Yes, money is important, and dating without it is hard but not impossible. It's up to you the journey you take and can live with. Advice is generally given from a point of personal experience, and most just want to be positive and help. So, stop and assess and take what you can apply and ask for cheaper solutions it may cost you more time and energy but not impossible. Persistence is key, and I hope this helps.
I apologise if anything I have said offends. All the best from a 42F virgin by choice."
Firstly, dating and sex are grown-up activities. You can't actually live easily without money or everyone would quit the rat race. So, yes, money is important. Hypergamy is very real and always has been. Most women will date up as it is important to us that we don't get knocked up by a man who can't provide for us.
I don't agree with paying for dating sites. Once you pay, they are designed to keep you there as you are a source of income. Don't do it is my advice to all. It may have worked for one man or woman somewhere, but for the vast majority, it doesn't. Invest time and energy into building a good profile and actually filling it in properly and practising taking decent pictures. It's a lot of work in progress for everyone.
Some people spend a lot on health and fitness. It isn't the only way you can do body weight exercises like callisthenics and just clean up your lifestyle like quit drink and smoking as well as paleolithic diet and learn about herbs and spices that will help you get to your optimum physique it takes time, effort, learning,but yes also less money. Also, athleticism and beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. It may get you noticed by a woman, but it doesn't necessarily mean you'll be will be able to keep them. Character and personality count more than most men realise.
Being presentable and hygienic is important to everyone, and if it isn't, it says a lot silently and makes people question how you were raised and what you were taught. Looking fashionable is often mistaken with wearing designer or luxury attire. They mean dress for the gaze of the gender you are interested in, and now affordable clothing is everywhere, and just learn to alter your clothes to fit better. It's cheaper but time-consuming. This means thinking before you buy and buying key pieces for long-term use and style, don't be wasteful and find your classic style.
I don't agree with plastic surgery as it is an expensive quick fix and doesn't always guarantee perfect results. I would however say start with basics that will improve your quality overall and have a higher ROI. Experiment with your hair and facial hair and work out what looks good. Get braces and see a dentist regularly oral hygiene is important. See your doctor/dermatologist if you have skin or body issues or illness. Selfcare is important. No one can love you if you don't love or take care of yourself.
Financial stability is important to everyone, especially women, as we can get pregnant and be left barefoot and pregnant. You are on your own timeline for achieving it. Most people are struggling, but it's easier to pretend that we aren't. Most people will understand and that's why many people have done it in nature, cars, cinema's hotels etc. Humans find a way to get intimate even if they live at home with parents. The right partner will understand your financial restrictions, but don't expect a woman who is used to a life of luxury to date down unless she really likes you. It's rare and the exception, not the rule. Most women won't date down in their social and economic class.
Getting a hobby means being cultured and intelligent and having something to say and teach each other. We want to be a part of each others lives and share hobbie interests as well as have you partake in ours. Otherwise, what are you doing to build a life that is enjoyable together long-term. Along with seeing if our morals and values align.
I can only say sorry, I hope I have clearly explained everything you have raised as an issue. Yes, money is important, and dating without it is hard but not impossible. It's up to you the journey you take and can live with. Advice is generally given from a point of personal experience, and most just want to be positive and help. So, stop and assess and take what you can apply and ask for cheaper solutions it may cost you more time and energy but not impossible. Persistence is key, and I hope this helps.
I apologise if anything I have said offends. All the best from a 42F virgin by choice."
