one of the comments is a story from a female with cerebral palsy, she claims to be 'just like us but without the hate' lmao. she has no mention of ever having had a romantic relationship in her op -
To all of those in the comments trying to defend these people on the basis that "there's only so much rejection a person can take," let me tell you a little story about my own romantic life - or lack thereof. I'm a 24 year-old female; I was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at birth. This is a common neurological disorder that affects movement and motor function, making it impossible for me to walk, or perform certain everyday activities, without some kind of mobility aide, or hours of extra time. I was also formally diagnosed with clinical depression around the time I started high school. High school - as in, the time one begins to discover their sexuality, and have a desire to enter into a romantic and/or sexual relationship. Because I was a quiet, shy, and relatively 'to myself' kid. save for regular interactions with a few close friends - one of whom I had known for years, and felt I was falling madly in love with - most people who had never interacted with me would assume that because my body wasn't in 'proper working order' that I was intellectually challenged as well. For a prime example, I was walking through the gym and took a few less-than-innocent peeks at the boy's basketball team - because I was a teenager, and I was attracted to boys. Their coach saw me and said - in a really ... sacrum voice; the kind you'd use when talking to a toddler: "Are you looking at the boys, sweetie?" That friend I was absolutely crazy about? Rejected me, because he saw the prospect of dating me as some kind of embarrassment - and that wasn't my insecurity talking, either. He told me this, to my face. I'd come to believe that no one would ever see me as a sexual being. Many more rejections and failed romantic pursuits later, and I withdrew into myself. I accepted the fact that being loved and having sex weren't possible for me. And, yeah - that made me sad, but I never stopped trying to find joy in my everyday life, through hobbies, through friends, through family events, through pursuing a degree - because I understood that the absence of sex, romantic love, dating - wasn't the end all, be all. I was still very lonely, and very self-deprecating (and still struggle/d with depression) - but, I never channeled these feelings into the kind of hatred that would cause me to tear down strangers, or hate the entirety of humanity, or want to cause people bodily harm. Hell, before I left high school, I even managed to forgive my former friend - because as much as his rejection stung, and as much as he chose the absolute worst way to go about it - I understood that he couldn't help how he didn't feel about me. I understand loneliness, and pain, and sexual frustration, and the feeling of being completely discredited as a potential partner as much, if not more, than any of these so-called "incels." And, I can honestly say that they DO NOT have my sympathy. At best, these guys are pathetic, self-entitled brats. At worst, they're absolute monsters. Either way, they have no understanding of how the world works.
But I knew better. I KNEW AS AN ABSOLUTE FACT before even looking that if I scroll down to see her responses, there would be mention of a relationship. and what do you know...
Desirae8 months ago (edited)
I didn't include this in the OP, because I didn't want to be attacked - or accused of 'bragging' - but, once I stopped placing so much emphasis on a LACK of love, and worked at getting "I'm just inherently unloveable" out of my head - I started seeing an amazing guy - it's going on 6 years now - and we're getting married next June. THAT is the reason why incels cannot have relationships. They're spending what could be a great life - given some self-reflection - obsessing over what they DON'T have - or worse, what they THINK THEY'RE ENTITLED TO. This only leads to anger at innocent people - because obviously women can't sense that you're slowly becoming unhinged and have an ego the size of Rhode Island. They're just not bothering with you because they're way too into CHAD. It's sickening.
I didn't include this in the OP, because I didn't want to be attacked - or accused of 'bragging' - but, once I stopped placing so much emphasis on a LACK of love, and worked at getting "I'm just inherently unloveable" out of my head - I started seeing an amazing guy - it's going on 6 years now - and we're getting married next June. THAT is the reason why incels cannot have relationships. They're spending what could be a great life - given some self-reflection - obsessing over what they DON'T have - or worse, what they THINK THEY'RE ENTITLED TO. This only leads to anger at innocent people - because obviously women can't sense that you're slowly becoming unhinged and have an ego the size of Rhode Island. They're just not bothering with you because they're way too into CHAD. It's sickening.
old news, i know, just reaffirming that you (and myself) are fucked.
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