Venting A few months ago, my mother said looks are "very important" in dating and you can have a huge advantage if you look good. Now she said...

[TheGrayWolf]

A few months ago she said the EXACT OPPOSITE. "Most [young] men are really ugly." (she was only talking about people aged 18-30 bc that's fairer than also including 30+).

"... personality is much more important. Looks aren't that important." She ALWAYS contradicts herself and I don't know why

I know 2 things: 1. She has bad memory, and 2. She is not actually bluepilled, as in she does think looks are important.

 

[Pancakecel]

Have you discussed having people look/mock/ comment on your appearance when outside, with her? I tried with my mum, she just said the usual its all in your head/ you need to smile/ people can sense bad vibes off you bullshit jfl

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Have you discussed having people look/mock/ comment on your appearance when outside, with her? I tried with my mum, she just said the usual its all in your head/ you need to smile/ people can sense bad vibes off you bullshit jfl

I'm sorry she did that to you I know it sucks. My mum does exactly the same with me kek. And she KNOWS it's not true because I saw/realised a lot of times that she noticed people point at me, laugh and say/"whisper" to loudly "look at this guy" or some shit like that

 

[sexistcel]

She must mean most young MEN

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Have you discussed having people look/mock/ comment on your appearance when outside, with her? I tried with my mum, she just said the usual its all in your head/ you need to smile/ people can sense bad vibes off you bullshit jfl

she says like "They aren't laughing at you, it might just be a coincidence. Even if they do laugh, just ignore them, why would you care?" and "stop caring what others think of you."

 

[TheGrayWolf]

She must mean most young MEN

yes, young men. will correct

 

[sexistcel]

Have you discussed having people look/mock/ comment on your appearance when outside, with her? I tried with my mum, she just said the usual its all in your head/ you need to smile/ people can sense bad vibes off you bullshit jfl

I’ve never talked to my mom about any of this and don’t ever plan on it even tho I’m almost 26. She does occasionally tell me that I need to get a gf like it’s as easy as going outside and picking one from a tree like a typical normtard

 

[Pancakecel]

I'm sorry she did that to you I know it sucks. My mum does exactly the same with me kek. And she KNOWS it's not true because I saw/realised a lot of times that she noticed people point at me, laugh and say/"whisper" to loudly "look at this guy" or some shit like that

she says like "They aren't laughing at you, it might just be a coincidence. Even if they do laugh, just ignore them, why would you care?" and "stop caring what others think of you."

Yeah man, it sucks. But I am thankful there is this site and guys such as yourself ,who have similar experiences, and we can discuss it. Otherwise I dont know how I would be able to vent this shit, I try not to think about it too much, but some days it just infuriates me.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Yeah man, it sucks. But I am thankful there is this site and guys such as yourself ,who have similar experiences, and we can discuss it. Otherwise I dont know how I would be able to vent this shit, I try not to think about it too much, but some days it just infuriates me.

Amen brother, you speak my mind 100% life is cruel, we don't deserve this

 

[sexistcel]

Mothers are purposely delusional and try to coax you into bluepill ideas. The ideal child for them is a normie wageslave with a wife and kids. If you are anything other than that, they will try you steer you in that direction.

Exactly what my wage slaving mother wants for me. She talks like it’s her dream for me to work for some low paying dead job

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Exactly what my wage slaving mother wants for me. She talks like it’s her dream for me to work for some low paying dead job

Mothers are purposely delusional and try to coax you into bluepill ideas. The ideal child for them is a normie wageslave with a wife and kids. If you are anything other than that, they will try you steer you in that direction.

That's the thing - my mother is not delusional, nor bluepilled, she knows it never began for me. She sometimes says blackpilled stuff but then contradicts herself months later with bluepilled shit. I'm 26 and I know her. I just know that she knows it's over for me mainly bc of my looks.

She has implied and outright stated I won't have a gf. She implied and straight out stated - "you're not the type to marry and have kids" and implied many times how I'll be forever alone.

When she says stuff like "you can't get a gf because you're weird", she knows it's also or mainly my looks. The only wish my mother apparently has for me is that I get a job once and be able to keep it. I'm 26 and dropped out of uni years ago then restarted. In essence I'm a failure, genetically and in everything else.

 

[NorthernWind]

Woman's words should not be trusted.

 

[Cuckedbylife]

Typical gaslighting

 

[Wolnir]

She knows the truth but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you that it's over.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

She knows the truth but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you that it's over.

Yes that's what I think. But why would she sometimes say "you're so handsome!" and "Looks are very important in dating", other times (like 3 days ago), "there are so many good looking men out there, you don't know because you're never outside" and "you don't look that good."
What I'm saying is: either she should always lie or always tell the truth. But by literally directly contradicting herself, it's a certainty that she lies at least once and that is what enrages me the most. Her carelessness in what she says.
Either stick to the truth or the lies. But not both, because I have a good memory